Submitted by guutarajouzu t3_11iyfim in tifu
This happened 2 nights ago to be exact. I met up with a friend of mine after work to catch up and hang loose. Having finished a rather gruelling month at the office, I really needed some time to unwind. So, lo and behold, we get a meal and some drinks, then smoke cigars and eventually find our way over to a bar that my friend goes to from time to time.
At this point, I need to point out that I'm probably the undisputed alcohol lightweight world champion but I don't mind that at all because my family has a history of liver problems and I save money by nursing a beer for an hour. Hence, it's not surprising that I'm unfamiliar with the pricing scheme for hostess bars, which is where my friend has brought us to.
The ladies working there are all really sweet and do a good job at running the place to make you feel welcome but it is still a hostess bar and the women have to maximize their pay somehow. It's also a military town so there are no shortage of lonely, single soldiers who are far from home and willing to part ways with their money in exchange for some attention from the opposite sex.
We sat down at the bar and it's still rather early; plus my friend is somewhat of a regular there, so of course we're given a warm greeting and buy a round for ourselves. While my friend catches up with the staff, e.g. how you been? Where's so and so? Etc., one of the gals strikes up a conversation with me. In hindsight, I really stood out because I'm a Korean civilian, was dressed in office attire and spoke both English and Korean. An uncommon venn diagram among their regular clientele, so to speak.
We hit it off instantly. We either shared very similar worldviews and tastes, OR, she's a well-experienced people reader who had me dancing to her tune (I'm leaning towards the latter). But seeing as how the last time I connected with a member of the opposite sex like this was a year ago, I was trying to soak up every minute of it. She asked several questions that all hinted at wanting to meet up outside of work.
Throughout it all, she'd ask if she could do a shot with me. I declined one for me as I was carefully timing my one beer but I'd get her a drink each time she asked. I know the prices for hostess' drinks are unreasonably high but I was too drunk and cheerful to bother checking the price. Eventually, my genetically-defective liver couldn't handle any more so my friend walked me to his home so I could pass out, but not before the hostess and I exchanged contacts.
2 nights later, I was paying a bill and opened up my online banking app. Turns out those shots were approximately $25 each and I bought her 6 of them. I had a good laugh at myself, and was relieved that I wasn't mad or resentful at all, because I got what I paid for: a relaxing night out with a temporary companion. It's nice to feel wanted, even if it is just physical or fake. We've exchanged some messages but I'm trying not to give in to the fantasy that something might happen.
TL/DR: I was too drunk to bother checking the prices at a hostess bar and ended up spending the equivalent of my grocery budget on 6 drinks.
TexasMeatCrayon t1_jb0kzrr wrote
You’re already doing better than most of us. I don’t know anyone, including myself, who ever got a server’s number and then heard back from them.
Keep it casual, be her friend. There’s no rush.