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MooCowCrusader t1_jb3a2o9 wrote

In regards to the people saying "ghosted", don't lose hope yet. I honestly wouldn't consider it being ghosted until a full week passes.

Also - don't spam her with texts. Give her some time to digest (lol), and if you want to text her again, do it as a last resort after at least a week. When you do (if she hasn't texted you back at that point), apologize once more for how things ended last time, explain that you enjoyed and valued her company and you'd like to see her again, but totally understand if she doesn't reciprocate those feelings. Then if she doesn't respond just let it go.

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GiraffeyManatee t1_jb5gaem wrote

Send flowers with a short, handwritten apology. A text isn’t enough in this situation

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1LizardWizard t1_jb5xgbr wrote

Lol redditors need to go outside more often goddamn. This is embarrassing, a faux pas, and probably uncomfortable for both. Nothing some straightforward honesty can’t fix. And if it can’t fix it, then frankly it’s a bullet dodged. Emotionally mature adults can move past awkward sexual mistakes especially if they had an understanding that OP is not experienced. “Sorry I came way too quickly and without warning” flowers are not the apology you think they are.

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VictosVertex t1_jb61vwp wrote

Agree, people on reddit seem to watch too many romcoms. That's not how real life is at all.

Bringing flowers and a blown up apology because sex got more messy than expected is absolutely out of proportion.

Like I don't even see how this is remotely a big deal. Worse things happened to me and while they were embarrassing at the time not a single instance was a deal breaker.

If someone leaves you because sex got messy then be glad they're gone. Not only would they be boring in bed, they're just not mature enough for a proper relationship between adults.

Shit happens, sometimes even literally, in this case just figuratively but it's no big deal either way.

He could basically just say sorry for the mess and even state that he didn't expect ot to be that good because his experiences were different.

If she's mature enough (and enjoyed the rest of the date of course) then this will be nothing but a funny story to laugh about years later.

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1LizardWizard t1_jb6c8cr wrote

Seriously. I can’t say I’ve had this specific experience, but as you say, we’ve all had awkward and embarrassing experiences—that’s part of life. Anyone who’s ever had sex consistently knows it can be sticky, smelly, and sweaty.

I recall reading a study a while back that humans in states of sexual arousal are substantially less sensitive to unpleasant odors, gore, and a couple other categories. The theory being that sex is a pretty gross thing naturally, so our brains compensate with endorphins.

I hope everything works out, but if making your partner cum too quickly is a dealbreaker that’s just mad shallow. If I were the woman, I think I’d just be more proud than anything else.

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cyankitten t1_jb64vcy wrote

I can imagine that being written on the florist card OMG!

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xauntiebearx t1_jb6gl1c wrote

"Sorry for the surprise squirt, here's an apology spray."

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