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FlyGuy_2000 t1_jb497tj wrote

How did the other guy know you and her were messaging each other? What if they are both either in on the scam, or the same person?

I encountered a similar situation on Match.com 25 years ago with a doctor named "Trisha" who lived in Seattle. We emailed each other all day long. Then out of the blue someone who claimed he was an ex emailed me, told me she was playing him and me, and wanted to meet up to exchange notes. So we did, and this guy was pretty cool and then started calling and wanting to hang out. Turns out he was gay and was "Trisha" all along. Long story, didn't want to hijack your thread, but just a warning.

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Majestic-Lion1254 OP t1_jb4agf3 wrote

Yeah i got the same feeling, that it might be him all along. He told me he noticed many times that me and her logged out at the same time, cause we did often say goodnight to each other.

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Mnerna t1_jb5soic wrote

Sounds like it was the dude all along.

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Majestic-Lion1254 OP t1_jb5xnd0 wrote

Fucking hell, i kept talking to the guy about our experience. Eventually he gave me his facebook. I took a look and he has no profile pic, but in one of the pictures he mentions a very specific mall that the woman claimed to have lived near once. On top of that, one of the women in the comments used the word "Absolutely!" which the person on the site also used a lot. So it could be 3 things: they were working together on this, it was just him all along or he is actually the stalker ex that she used to live with.

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FlyGuy_2000 t1_jb60ma3 wrote

They/he are playing you. Everything about this smells fishy. ABSOLUTELY.

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Majestic-Lion1254 OP t1_jb61og5 wrote

Yeah biggest sign was that she deleted the profile when i asked for the special selfie finally. Idk what the end goal was tho. I'm guessing they were hired by the website to keep people engaged and look at ads.

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FlyGuy_2000 t1_jb672gr wrote

The end goal usually revolves around money. Establish that she is a doctor and thus gainfully employed. Then concoct an emergency where she doesn't have access to funds and needs to borrow, with you coming as the knight in shining armor to save the one you love, and her promising to pay you back. Rinse and repeat.

Or it can be a creep getting thrills out of fooling people.

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Majestic-Lion1254 OP t1_jb69i4z wrote

I don't believe it was about scamming me out of money. Tbh i've seen ads for jobs that claim to be "website moderator" but in actuality you get paid 70 cents for each sexual message you send to someone, thus the longer you keep them on the hook the more you earn. My mistake was that the person seemed too genuine to me. There was even periods where they didn't msg me for a few days.

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Majestic-Lion1254 OP t1_jb9iwjt wrote

Fuck sake, I got a message today saying it's her and she wants me to know that she's still alive, but her health has taken a big downturn.

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