So this was a couple days ago. I (f) got super smashed at home while my husband (m) was out and was doing the usual thing by hanging out on games with my best friend(m). I am a super sexual person and I had told my husband before we got married that it’s something I need. I also told him from the start that my best friend always comes first for me. My husband was caught cheating and begged me to marry him anyway and that he’d show me I’ll fall back in love with him. So after 5 years of him continuing with online cheating I got to a point of not caring. It’s online. It’s whatever. It’s not a big deal anymore and not worth my time.

Well anyway I was super drunk when he got home and my friend has gone to bed and I said to my husband that I wish I was having sex with my best friend cause he tries pleasing the girl he’s with and it’s not 2 mins unlike with him. So tonight he told me to go and enjoy my toys and think about my best friend when I tried to turn him on or maybe think about my ex husband because I once called my current husband, my ex husbands name during sex ( both names are too similar and was an honest mistake).

TLDR: got drunk and told my husband I wish I was fuckin my best friend instead of him

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shirk-work t1_jdpp982 wrote on March 26, 2023 at 5:23 AM

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Unless this is all consensual kink I may suggest you two split up or seriously reevaluate your relationship. Seems like monogamy may not be your thing.

EDHFanfiction t1_jdpq177 wrote on March 26, 2023 at 5:32 AM

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I’m not sure why people still trust a cheater in a relationship but whatever.

The second part of the story is not very clear. In any case, it feels like you guys need therapy to save your marriage at this point.

-holdmyhand t1_jdpq8hu wrote on March 26, 2023 at 5:34 AM

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I don't know why you're still married to each other. gif

[deleted] t1_jdpt1aq wrote on March 26, 2023 at 6:10 AM

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Jaerin t1_jdptec0 wrote on March 26, 2023 at 6:15 AM

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So you admit you're the asshole? You don't have to be

OkVolume1 t1_jdqar4v wrote on March 26, 2023 at 10:27 AM

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So, you're gonna have two ex-husbands pretty soon.

akayataya t1_jdr0tg5 wrote on March 26, 2023 at 2:49 PM

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Wow.

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mcdirtyboii t1_jdxkgq4 wrote on March 27, 2023 at 10:41 PM

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You can’t be surprised if he is online cheating when you literally told him point blank “you’re supposed to be the most important man in my life but you never will be”. Idk how people have such unhealthy views on relationships that they prioritize other people then don’t sleep beside every night, have intercourse “exclusively”, and literally vowed to be the most important to one another. Sounds like he loved you but you settled for him because of convenience. Which really shows how you probably over value yourself. Everything in life has trade offs. Pretty sure he traded some of his wants and needs to be with you. Sure he is online cheating but damn you’re doing the same with your best friend lol. This is coming from a man who’s best friend is a woman. I’ve told her plenty she matters the world to me but I’m not her number one anymore if she is going to commit to a man, then at best I can be top 10 if I’m lucky. She slowly realized I was right and prioritized her man. Overtime they grew closer, she changed a lot of her ways, and now has a son and is getting married to this guy in 6 months. They’ve been together for 3 years but I know the love they have for each other is something you don’t see in my generation anymore and I couldn’t be happier for them both.

Edit: the point was, do you think you’re doing everything you can to make your husband happy and feel like the center of your world? And I know it’s hard but don’t try to flip it on him and start the blame game. People all around have forgotten that they only can control themselves and what they do. Not others just because you point your finger and say “no but you”. The best thing I think to do is either face the fact that things will never be the best and you might need to walk away or you need to pin point what needs are missing for your your husband. Because only then can you truly have a valid argument over who is the wrong way one here. Not that you both haven’t done wrong but at least you tried to right your wrong.

TL:DR- Start with an apology, then start a very needed conversation about why he can’t stop online cheating, and what could you do to make him want more sex.