My friend decided to rerun for a position in a uni society, and they looked really forward to winning it.

I had genuine belief that they could be a good member for this society, but also didn't want to ignore other possible candidates. So when it came to it, I was torn between them and someone that seemed pretty suited for the role as well.

In the end, I ended up voting for the other candidate instead. This actually caused a tiebreaker between the two.

Even though I voted my friend in round 2, they would go on to lose. Later, I would try help them by listening to them vent their frustrations, but later, I decided I wanted to be honest about how I fucked their odds of winning. They told me they don't want to talk or see me again.

Maybe me trying to pick objectively was a good move, but they were a good candidate themselves. If I had voted, they would've won, no tiebreaker. If I had waited a long time to come clean, maybe they would've taken it better.

But I didn't want to lie to my friend. Now they may not be my friend, and it tears me apart.

TL;DR I came clean to my friend about letting them down in the votes, and it's made them cut ties instantly.

Comments

gissaboi t1_jdunk7k wrote on March 27, 2023 at 9:46 AM

#2,387,504

U should have voted on your friend my guy, how could u call yourself a friend and not believe in him. Even if the other might be better its your friend and u dont just not support your friend. Was a dick move on your part and u kinda got what u deserved.

ChaCha_real_smooth t1_jdunzga wrote on March 27, 2023 at 9:51 AM

#2,387,562

You have broken the bro code. Your homie was well suited for the position and you knowingly screwed him over. Honestly you're a terrible "friend"

jrprov1 t1_jduwvnf wrote on March 27, 2023 at 11:41 AM

#2,388,686

Who wants a friend that does not have your back? I do not blame your friend for realizing that and cutting ties with you.

HibachiFlamethrower t1_jdwjnp0 wrote on March 27, 2023 at 6:39 PM

#2,397,405

Why didn’t you vote for your friend? Why did you vote for the other person?

Globgobgalob t1_jdwqatf wrote on March 27, 2023 at 7:21 PM

#2,398,368

If you voted objectively then that's a good thing. Your friend can be upset bc they're hurt but you did something right.

ChaCha_real_smooth t1_jdx90rm wrote on March 27, 2023 at 9:22 PM

#2,400,964

Replying to Globgobgalob (#2,398,368)

Both him and the other guy were there, which means he was also elligible for the position. This is an unforgivable breach of the bro code and you shouldn't encourage it

Globgobgalob t1_jdxayqn wrote on March 27, 2023 at 9:35 PM

#2,401,239

Replying to ChaCha_real_smooth (#2,400,964)

You choose someone based on their skills not because you hang out with them. The other seemed to be slightly better than OP's friend and in competitions a slight difference has always a huge impact. I wouldn't encourage nepotism.

Playful-Fox8454 OP t1_jdz68d1 wrote on March 28, 2023 at 7:06 AM

#2,411,215

Replying to HibachiFlamethrower (#2,397,405)

I wanted to vote objectively, so I chose who I just thought was logically best.

Obviously that wasn't the best.

ChaCha_real_smooth t1_jdzoeb8 wrote on March 28, 2023 at 11:19 AM

#2,413,414

Replying to Globgobgalob (#2,401,239)

It was a uni society. Obviously you'd pick your friend over someone slightly better. I would encourage being a good friend

Globgobgalob t1_jdzp3ke wrote on March 28, 2023 at 11:26 AM

#2,413,523

Replying to ChaCha_real_smooth (#2,413,414)

My friends are mature enough to understand why I would choose someone more competent than them. Being a good friend would be to tell them straight away the reasons so they can improve.