Submitted by ArrMarriageAvoidance t3_11kcflm in tifu
Hey everyone! I don't know if you remember me but I'm the dude who came out as gay to avoid an arranged marriage
Anyways, I have an update for you guys!
I read all the comments on the original post, from the people telling me to just tell my parents, questioning whether or not I was really straight, laughing at the admittedly fairly funny situation I'd gotten myself into and a couple of people who were straight up mean
At the end of the day though posting here probably gave me the final push to do something. The weekend after I'd made the post, I visited my parents as always and resolved myself to tell them the truth. However when I got there my mom as always pushed the binder in my hands and I kinda lost my resolve to tell her. I decided to just play along
It was then that I remembered the people on this thread who made fun of me for liking femboys and questioned whether or not I was really straight. I kinda took that to heart and decided to look at the binder of dudes in earnest to see if Iiked any of them. Tbh I'm really glad I did. Most of the dudes were unattractive as expected, but I found a dude on there who I legitimately think is cuter and more feminine than the vaaaaast majority of girls I've seen. I told my mom I liked him and she kinda joked around asking me what the point of being gay is when I wanted a dude who looked like a girl anyways 🗿
She talked to his parents, we had a meeting set up over Zoom and overall it went really well! Me and him have a bunch of common interests (we're both massive weebs and history nerds) and he also disclosed that he apparently crossdressed in private which only made me like him more
In the end though we both decided we didn't want to rush into marriage and wanted to do a dating trial run of sorts. I told my parents and.... THEY WERE FINE WITH IT. My dad literally just told me that as long as we have marriage as an eventual goal and don't have sex before marriage they didn't mind if we dated... Y'all literally this whole shitshow could've been avoided lmfao (though I'm kinda glad it wasn't)
Luckily he lived in the same state as me, but he was still a 3-4 hour drive away, so mostly we've just had discord calls and spent time together gaming for the past few weeks. This Saturday though we finally managed to meet up in person and have a date and honestlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I think I'm kinda in love. Dudes cuter than any girl I've ever met but unlike most girls he's actually into the same things I am.
Anyways we ended up having a great day out on Saturday and I ended up staying at his place over the weekend (though surprisingly I kept my promise to my dad and somehow avoided having sex lol)
Anyways yeah I'm now back home and extremely happy with my decision to lie to my parents (then again is it really lying if it turned out to be true?).
I really really do like him and will prolly ask him to marry me a couple months from now if nothing goes wrong.
TL;DR - guess I really was gay all along