Submitted by hatehatehatehate1111 t3_11v8vjd in tifu
Okay, so I didn’t introduce them today, but I am certainly feeling the repercussions now more than ever. I just need to vent this somewhere.
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Necessary context, my old friend who I will dub Valerie, had a habit of stalking through my friends list on social media and talking to people that I had previously mentioned in conversation to her. Often, boys I was interested in or close friends. She would message them and say that I recommended they be friends, and out of the six times she did this, four of them ended up ghosting me. I have no idea what Valerie would say but I am sure it wasn’t true. As well, she was just a shitty person overall. In one instance, she made up a sexual fantasy “inspired by” a childhood event that traumatized me. Weird things like that. I stopped talking to her for obvious reasons back in 2021 after we had been friends for a year already.
Right around the time I stopped talking to Valerie, I met a very nice boy named Evan. He has been so so so good to me, and I feel so lucky. I opened up to him months ago about how Valerie made me feel and I told him all the awful things she did, including but not limited to, her stealing away my friends and people I had interest in. He agreed that it was awful and I had every right to be upset.
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A few months ago, Valerie reached out to tell me she had changed. I was hesitant but gave her another chance. We became a lot closer very quickly and I really did believe she had changed. I started to tell her about Evan, and how happy he made me. I even opened up about how I sometimes get very jealous when people are flirty with him despite him being very loyal. My mistake.
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A week later, Valerie asked to befriend Evan, saying she’s heard a lot about him and how she wants to be involved in my life. Valerie had a history of saying or doing things that she knew would piss me off to make it look as though I was getting upset over nothing to the people I liked. Resulting in them liking me less, thinking I am dramatic. I was wary, but felt bad for holding the past against her and introduced them. They got along great, despite Evan previously saying Valerie seemed annoying and he wouldn’t like her at all. Within days, she sent a random picture to the group chat of her with her pants down very low. I expected Evan to say something as he’s always been very forward with girls who show interest with him. He didn’t say anything. She sent a similar picture the next day, and he still didn’t say anything. I questioned him about it and he said it was nothing and there wasn’t any reason for me to be upset. I felt bad and dropped it. I got a sinking feeling that Valerie was doing what she did before, making me look as though I’m getting mad over nothing after I disclosed to her my jealousy. Afterward, I explained to Evan that I was only upset because it reminded me of how Valerie used to be. How she was making me look bad in front of him on purpose, and it worked. He said he was wrong in thinking it was stupid to be upset about and that he didn’t want to talk to her anymore knowing what she was doing.
Less than a week later, he out of nowhere told me he thinks Valerie is funny. I thought that was weird to say considering he told me he wasn’t speaking to her anymore and I hadn’t seen any new messages in the group chat. I didn’t get upset with him but I feel like I did seem pretty dejected. He told me again that it was a stupid reason to get jealous, and we had a small argument. I told him that I felt as if he took nothing I said in terms of how she made me feel into account, and he again told me he was sorry and it wouldn’t happen again.
Now over a month later, he told me again today that Valerie is very funny and invited her to play video games with us… I didn’t even know they were still in contact. I feel like I’m losing him to her like the rest of the people she talks to.
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TL;DR my boyfriend stealer of a friend is stealing my boyfriend