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Tanagrabelle t1_iqzyvpo wrote

"I'm really sorry I said that. It was a stupid thing to say, and I didn't mean it."

Try that out, with utter sincerity. Do not add any "but I thought it was funny." "People do it on tiktok all the time." If she asks if you know why it hurt her, let's make an assumption. "Because it's a nasty thing to say. I'm so sorry. I wasn't thinking."


OrgyInTheBurnWard t1_ir0bjme wrote

If anything, say something along the lines of, "I was trying to be funny and not hurtful, and failed at both. I'm sorry I hurt you." You can explain your motivations without making excuses. I think having a mutual understanding of a given situation is important for both apologies and forgiveness.


asm001 t1_ir0ohqv wrote

Also do it to her face in person. Texting doesn't convey intent/sincerity. If you care, show it. Don't try and excuse with humour when not appropriate.