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Ainar86 t1_irzxtor wrote

A conflict over conservative values between teenage lesbians. Well, now I've seen everything.

Now seriously, the best answer anyone can give here is probably try not to worry about it. What's done is done and what matters is if the two of you want to be together. If either one doesn't at this point then it was always going to end up like that. Better sooner than later, moving on is easier when you're young, even if it doesn't seem that way.

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a_darling_l OP t1_is0d08z wrote

she has extremely homophobic chirstan parents and likes to live by their rules which im totally gonna respect. I'm just picking it cause sex made me feel horrible and icky for lack of a better word. as to what your advice is thank you so much for that. I think she still likes me because we're best friends but if that's not what she wants then I have to let her. thank you so much :)

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Ainar86 t1_is5oorh wrote

As someone who was raised catholic but is now atheist I can tell you right now that it is impossible to truly live by that rule set and be happy, especially if you don't conform what they consider "normal". What happened might in the end be better for you since being with someone who is taught to hate themselves is not a fun trip.

Now the second thing you wrote is worrying. Sex should never make you feel horrible and icky. Think about why it did, was it because of the place you were in and because it was part of that general low point in your life or maybe you felt pressured into it? It would be ideal if you could talk to someone about it, preferably a sex/mental health professional or at least a good councilor.

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a_darling_l OP t1_is6a7w5 wrote

I totally get it I was raised catholic/Lutheran. different parents type beat. I just recently got out of that whole mind set as much as I could I was just hoping I could help her since she's trying. 2nd it was mainly cause of the religious part and also cause of the girl and everything. the place the girl the time everything but I think I should talk to my therapist about it. thank you so much for this comment it made me smile :)

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a_darling_l OP t1_is6acuy wrote

im also an atheist I forgot to mention that :)

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