SweetDove t1_isf19ro wrote on October 15, 2022 at 2:05 PM

As a vagina having person, we spend a lot of our lives being bashed on for our periods, the last place we want to deal with it is from people who are supposed to love us. What if something happened and she needed caring for? I can see how you feel she over reacted, you're not a mind reader, but it's a conversation you need to have now that you've both calmed down.

The fact that you thought you'd be toes deep in red water tells me you need to spend more time talking to your girlfriend. It takes like 4 seconds tops to tidy up down there, especially if she uses tampons.

I won't blame you for the lack of education schools provide to young adults about women.

KautiousNupe55 t1_isgw9cl wrote on October 15, 2022 at 10:07 PM

Most women in the comments immediately wrote the dude off as a misogynistic jerk - without a shred of empathy or nuance in their responses.

Neither the parents, nor sex education, nor any science books or any mainstream media tells me how a period looks in the shower. Most men don't know until they hear it first hand OR encounter it with a girlfriend in some way shape or form.

THANK YOU for your comment. Communication is key with these kinds of things and that's hard to have when we IMMEDIATELY write other people off as if we ourselves are ALWAYS RIGHT and we the in and out of EVERYTHING, ALL THE TIME.

The guy came to this reddit thread, humbled with his hat in his hand, admitting guilt and seeking penance - only to be reminded that he should have somehow already known this kinda stuff. Most teenage boys also believe that a period is like a gorey, horror film and are kinda grossed out by it all. But most of us grow to understand it better with time and even when we didn't understand it + we were not out here BASHING women about it. But just keep in mind that not wanting period sex or wanting to shower with a spouse during her menstrual cycle is not synonymous with not understanding a period or penalizing a women because of it --- sometimes it's just a matter of PERSONAL CHOICE.

Ktulu789 t1_isf6utc wrote on October 15, 2022 at 2:48 PM

I don't think that needs to be educated. I mean, basic communication fixes it. This guy is weird, anyway xD

I don't have a vagina but I have a brain and really thinking that blood will be all over the place while showering is silly 🤣

This post made my day, anyway 😅

Squigglepig52 t1_isfmdn3 wrote on October 15, 2022 at 4:41 PM

"What if something happened?"

Like, what? Ninjas? Soap in her eyes? I mean, if she slipped and fell, he would hear her, right?

I mean, he told her he didn't have an issue with her having her period, AND he pointed out he was tired and buzzed, and just wanted to lay there. the bloody water part was like, the last, least item.

GF just wanted to be pissy about something. I mean, you're allowed to not want to share a shower without being some kind of regressive male beast.

Also, based on the number of times Reddit has post about women having an unexpected "gusher" and octaclots, that whole "4 seconds, no issue" seems contrary to what you actually experience.

standarduser2 t1_isjykl2 wrote on October 16, 2022 at 3:41 PM

He is a horrible person for being too tired to shower.

What if one day he is too tired for sex!?