throwway_1768 OP t1_it5j9ev wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:12 AM

Reply to comment by maurtshop in TIFU by confessing to my girlfriend that I wasn't actually a virgin by throwway_1768

She never asked the question directly and I never said anything about it either. I wasn't sure if she was joking about me being a virgin till a few months back when I realised she'd assumed this for the longest time. Even before this, I'd tried telling her once that I'd had experience in an indirect way and she brushed it off. We never had a direct conversation about it.

maurtshop t1_it5k61c wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:18 AM

yeah no dude that's a really weird assumption to make about a person. if it's that important to her and she didn't establish that out the gate esp when you tried to clear it up then.... idk what to say she just doesn't sound particularly mature or good with communication. you should've been more clear earlier for sure but i understand what an awkward sitch it put you in. i know youre going thru it rn but ngl it sounds like it wouldve imploded one way or another. not entirely your fault

throwway_1768 OP t1_it5kdz0 wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:20 AM

That's the thing, she's told me that it wouldn't have come to this if I didn't lie about it. I don't think she can get herself to trust me on anything anymore

maurtshop t1_it5kns6 wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:22 AM

that doesn't sound true tho. you guys both messed up, the communication here is just not it. you really really shouldn't be blaming yourself entirely when she didn't clue you into any of this. you're not a horrible person, you just sound like youre in your 20s