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JuliaThaddeus12 t1_it8rhpz wrote

Reply to comment by throwway_1768 in TIFU by confessing to my girlfriend that I wasn't actually a virgin by throwway_1768

I think both of your feelings about it are very understandable. The sad part of it is that she obviously really wanted your first time together to be special, and now she’s kind of forfeited that opportunity. She’s gotta learn to make it more clear to people what she wants in a relationship, or learn that she doesn’t have to be your first to be your best, and for it to be special. Is she waiting for marriage, or was she just waiting to be together longer before having sex?

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JuliaThaddeus12 t1_it8rr9t wrote

Ngl I’m a little confused about you living together for months without having sex...just wondering if there’s a specific reason why you’ve never done it together.

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throwway_1768 OP t1_it8z5hg wrote

She just wanted some time together to get comfortable. She said that i should have realised how important it is for me to be honest about this knowing her views on sex. I spoke to her about my previous relationship and apparently what irked her the most was how much i tried to avoid mentioning it. Go and figure that lol. I knew about her insecurities but apparently tip toeing around it only made it worse. I asked her if it would be possible for us to get back together in the future and she said she'd definitely consider it. I think I'll seek professional help to help correct how i react to her feelings in general.

Thank you for listening to me, you're very kind. God bless.

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