It's not ok to be abusive regardless of gender.

Both of you need to realize there's more to life than having someone who "completes" you. That's putting too much responsibility on someone and setting it up for disaster. You're 16 and have a whole life ahead of you. Your brain isn't fully developed until like age 25, not to mention hormones causing you to not think straight.

You're both better of ending your relationship and getting actual therapy. Focus on being the man you want to be, apply yourself to school and a craft. If it is meant to be you'll cross paths again.