I wish I could respond to everyone right now, I appreciate the comments. but I am currently at my parents house to tell them the truth. Family is very important to me and I want to try to make things better, but if it looks like it won't then I have accepted the fact I will have to cut ties (not just because of this but for 26 years worth of situations like this). I've also layed everything out for my boyfriend and while he has been understanding I can see why this would make him want to leave.

Also, this has all helped me realize I should probably go to therapy, so thanks for that too