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potatobreadandcider t1_iyawgzv wrote

It's good that you acknowledge your actions came from a place of personal insecurity, however if you do believe you have mutual trust with your partner you should talk about what you did.

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Accomplished-Duck138 OP t1_iyawwhn wrote

Why is it bad to delete them? I’m just wondering. Since I’m using his laptop, I don’t want to look at them

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trillabyte t1_iyaxum8 wrote

As a general rule if it’s not your computer you don’t change things without asking if it’s okay. General rule of most things you borrow really. As a side note you scare me. Please stop.

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lapsangsouchogn t1_iyay5he wrote

Because they aren't your messages and photos. Those are his.

How would you feel if he went though your closet and threw out clothes that you'd worn when you were with people he didn't approve of. Like gossipers or your friend who he thinks wear too much makeup.

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potatobreadandcider t1_iyaxtaf wrote

It's bad because you went searching for something you didn't want to find. Instead of talking openly and truthfully about what you found and how it made you feel, you deleted everything in what honesty sounds like a destructive spiral.

Based solely on this single post it seems like you don't trust your partner and after this post there is little reason for them to trust you in the future.

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