You can't pull out the uno reverse card on him? Y'all made out and held hands and stuff...sounds like he's pretty gay.

I understand that this is an incredibly difficult thing to have to go through, and I feel terrible for you situation. You were giving so much love and trust and someone violated that. But if it helps at all, know that this is just one chapter in many and the love you have to offer to offer can still flourish for many others!

Don't mind thise stupid people at school who just made fun of you. You are literally so much better than your ex boyfriend who tricked you. As for the necklace, hopefully you get it back. Try your best to ignore those people who are making you feel bad like making fun of you etc because like karma's gonna bite them back in the future. Also btw all actions you've decided to take are amazing so far.

He's really not going to be happy that he's been outed in a way, and that seems to be the case. But hay, he did what he did, so having everything brought out into the open is just the natural concequence of his actions. I can't help thinking there's actually been some mixed motives with him. In a way it could have been better to tread gently and give things time to resolve. Now it's all like an episode of heartstopper. Sorry this is your early and somewhat formative experience of love. Many of us have experiences of tentative and unrequited love. Being gay definetly ads another layer of complexity. Time to reset, be proud of how you've conducted yourself and start again. Big hug from all the Boys. You got this.

My guess is that he’s gay, he liked you, he is scared he’ll lose all his friends if he comes out so he’s got cold feet and now claims he did it all to humiliate you in an attempt to avoid having to deal with the consequences of coming out to his friends.

The gift was given on a premise of bad faith. He has no right to keep it.

You could small claims him. You might not win but it will put a public face to him for all the world to see.

Teenagers are pretty horrible, they’d do anything out of pettiness or just to impress their friends. Id say be careful about that friend group in general. Stay safe dude and hope this gets resolved peacefully

You can record the IG live with your phone and take it to school. In some locations, what students do outside of school against other students is consider bullying. It doesn't have to happen inside the school for them to take actions.

I would go to a school counselor, give them the videos, tell them how they all did a dare and what this guy did (pretending to be your BF). They are all in school and this also went on in school too. Maybe pressure from all of that, he'll give you the necklace back. This can potentially go on their records and it would be shared with colleges.

That's what I would do.

I’m so sorry you had to experience this BUT please be careful about confronting him at school. I’m honestly worried for your physical well-being especially because of how homophobic him and his friends honestly are. Please be careful and maybe try not to be alone. I’m wishing you the best.

That boy is gay as the day is long, buddy. How many times did you two make out over the months? And yeah you didn't have full-on sex, but what did you do with him? You should call his ass out in front of everyone. In detail. Fuck that guy. He deserves to get burned like that.

>She would then message me later that night that she isn't able to force her son to give the necklace back, but she's terribly sorry and that Skyler is staying at his Dad's for the time being.

I don't understand why she isn't able to force her son to give the necklace back. She's his mom and has authority over him. She can definitely get that necklace back if she tried.

27 y/o gay man here. It doesn’t feel like it’s been 10 years since high school lol but I remember what it feels like to be in that weird place with some people who are ok with it and some really conservative people. I remember what it was like to want to date someone like all my friends were doing but there was only 1 or 2 other people who were out and I wasn’t really interested in them.

People have given some great suggestions, such as going to administration and showing them how they’re bullying you on social media. So long as you’re in school, this isn’t ok and you shouldn’t let them get away with it. They were developing social media policies when I was in school, so I’m sure they’re a lot stricter now.

Overall though, I cannot emphasize enough how little these people will matter after high school. You will make new, adult friends. You will probably date lots of people. Life is going to be so much better beyond high school.

It sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders and a loving heart. It’s gonna be ok, bub. Whatever you do, though, please don’t hold onto Skyler. Take it from me, it’s so easy to get stuck on a guy that is NOT right for you. Life’s too short to waste time like that. Lemme know if you ever need someone to talk to that might understand what it’s like.

I hope Skyler really hates himself for what he did to you, one day. You deserve so much better and my heart goes out to you for being so deceived. You will get over this though and be a stronger person for it. Red flags are so much easier to see in people once people show you what they are. Good luck young one💜

Save all of the tik tok videos, and IG vids... anything that him or his friends post about you that can even be misconstrued as bullying! Including all the texts you still have. That way if they were to try and harm you in any way... you have an air tight case.

Do not make false accusations about him, such as yall sleeping together and such.

The reality is you may not get the necklace back, and that's an expensive lesson to learn. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Your still crazy young. Your gunna find quite a few more loves out there before you find the "one"!... take it easy... you have time!

Why can't the mom make him give it back? If any of my kids pulled this shit, you can bet your ass I would make them give it back.
I'm a pretty chill mom who is very understanding about just about anything, but one thing I do NOT tolerate from my kids is bullying.

I'm really sorry for what happened to you, nobody deserves to be treated this way and I hope you are feeling better soon!

How is everyone missing that this kid Skyler is gay or bi?

There's no way a straight kid commits to this con this much. He maybe decided op isn't for him and reacted by pulling back, or something, but this kid is just not 100% straight.

I was brought to this post because I randomly remembered the tiktok and as soon as I check you posted woah

Whatever happens, hold your head up. You did absolutely nothing wrong. He may have a few friends on his side, but you have damn near the rest of the world on yours.

As far as them calling you slurs and saying you lied… drop those receipts, put him on blast. I hate liars.

OP, I know it doesn't feel like this now, but the truth is that you have already won. You've won because you are kind and loving and courageous and wise and mature* and a wonderful decent human being, and all that will last a lifetime, and as you go through life most people will appreciate you hugely for all that. Look at the way the whole internet** is supporting you.

• okay, a bit naive but a) you're 18, you're only a beginner adult, naive is part of that, and b) that naivety was actually trust and decency.

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Skyler is definitely in denial about his own sexuality lol. Let this chapter of your life slide past, choose happiness. Literally no one actually cares about high school.

I’m so sorry you deserve so much better. Teenagers are assholes and don’t think about how much their actions can affect someone so just ignore their dumbasses. Ask him directly for the necklace back if he refuses start being petty like him and ask his little group of friends why a “straight” guy dated you for three months and kissed you multiple times. Stay safe kiddo I know how hard it can be sometimes dealing with homophobes ❤️

This whole thing seems so damn weird. Do you live in a particularly conservative area where open bigotry is accepted and encouraged? Because in most schools these days someone being gay is accepted pretty easy and the student body would be far more likely to tear him a new one instead of you. Also his mum is bi, what the hell?

But okay even if it was an ultra conservative area where gay people are met with massive ridicule, wouldn't the homophobic friends look at him sideways for willingly doing the dare for several months and making out with you?? It definitely sounds like his hostility and mockery of you might be performative to convince his friends he doesn't swing that way.

I've read all your posts on this, I don't know what to say except you're a legend and advocating for yourself in your situation must have been horrendously difficult but you spoke to his mother which is a huge accomplishment mate. Respect.

While very, very few of us ever face anything like what you've been through recently, most of us do at some point have a really awful experience that turns love into total chaos. You'll be alright. Just keep being strong, sincerely - you're an impressive guy.

Record it if they're talking about you and streaming it online. If this escalates you may be happy you have the evidence. I'm sorry you had to go through some shit like this man..some people just really suck.

Nah go in front of the class and tell them Skylar kissed you pretty convincingly for a straight dude.

Hope you get it back

This will stay with him for the rest of his life. At some point he will grow up and reflect on the things he did. This will be one of those memories that creeps up on him when he least expects it. He will regret the choices he made and will feel guilty about the way he treated you.

We all grow up someday. Even if it’s those last milliseconds as our life flashes before our eyes.

You on the other hand, you will have grown stronger from this. Your skin is thicker, it’s harder for you to fall so easily. You will have lived and learned and eventually the person you’re truly meant to be with will find you. You will appreciate them that much more. It’ll take time, but you’ll get there. You will build up walls and they will have to break those walls down to get to your heart, which means they truly love you.

Be patient. Be gentle to yourself. You did nothing wrong. Stay strong. You’re almost done with these people and you can cut them out of your life. Life is too short to allow toxic people in and those people are so insecure about themselves and incredibly toxic. They will undoubtedly join Hustlers University because they have something to prove.

May God have mercy on their souls and the government have mercy on their rape victims.

I've seen both your posts and Im a little worried for your safety here. I'm in the UK and I know some things work a bit different in the USA so please bear that in mind.

Im not gay but I know what it's like to be bullied at school. I also know how easily insults can lead to violence, especially when there's a gang of bullies egging each other on. From what you've said I think this is more likely as this guy is obviously gay or bi and can't deal with it.

If I were you I'd be documenting all this abuse, saving messages and videos were possible. You need to make the school aware of what's going on. The best way would be to go with a parent and see the Principle. If nothing else they can keep an eye out if any trouble from this gang of lads. If the worst does happen they'll then have no excuse but to come down on them like a ton of bricks.

I'd also let his parents know about all this Instagram stuff. If they in any way doubted you then there is a video confession from him.

You've said you've gone looking for legal advice about the necklace. As it was a gift that's probably going to make it hard to get back legally. I think your only hope there is if he caves into pressure from his parents. However what you need to do is cover yourself from any action from him and his gang of mates. I'd find out if any of this is covered by hate speech or harassment laws where you are, I'd also look into restraining orders against them especially if you can find any evidence that any of them have posted something about violence against gays.

Last thing don't dispair. School can be rough. Things get better when you leave. Whether you go to Uni or straight into work it's life is completely different. You can find your tribe and things will get much better for you.

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Good on you for speaking with his mum, no matter the outcome. You’ve done every right thing you possibly can. Bold and brave and better for it, well done!

It seems to me you're being sticking point these days is the necklace which is a symbol of your love for Tyler. Simply put the sooner you can let that necklace go the sooner you can let him go. Best of luck to you.

With Respect To getting your necklace back, talk to a lawyer.

Assuming you are in the US, your state bar association will have a referral system. Check their website. The referral consultation will be low cost or free, depending on the state (and the attorney may charge less given you're a minor). If you are outside the US, your region's/country's/equivalent's professional attorney's association probably runs a similar referral service.

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Given that the necklace was a gift, you cannot claim it as stolen property. However, I believe that you are a minor. As such, you have some ability to back out of contracts and agreements, and those agreements and contracts can be cancelled by your parents. You may have a right to back out of this gift and demand it back; that will be state and circumstance dependent.

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You may also have a claim under a theory of Fraud by False Pretenses. Your ex was materially enriched, and you were emotionally and materially harmed by your ex telling you things that he knew to be untrue. You may have a right to recover things you gave him that were premised upon you being in a real relationshop. Again, this will be state and circumstance dependent.

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Finally, assuming your ex is a minor, his mother may be wrong. She probably can (legally, if not morally) force your ex to give you the necklace back (depending on the custody agreement between your ex's parents). Certainly, if your ex's parents agree, they can force him to return it. If they don't, it will depend on the custody agreement and state law.

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It is entirely possible that you have no claim and are screwed. It is entirely possible that your claim to get it back is incredibly strong. No one on reddit who is qualified to make that judgement is going to respond to you in a public forum, as it could be professionally problematic. In the unlikely event someone qualified offers to you advise via messaging, it is going to be after a discussion about specifics, and they are going to need to know where you live (within state/city precision).

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In short, talk to a lawyer. Ask them if they think this is something that is worth bringing to small claims court, and what the process to do that will be. Also ask under what circumstances a custodial parent could force their child to return it, if a non-custodial parent could do the same thing, and if so, see if the attorney is willing to draft a letter to your ex's mother informing her of this.

I may not be the best person to take advice from, but if you have any friends them talk with them about it, and if you don't (no shame, I didn't at your age) talk to your dad or his mom more about it. Ask them for advice, help, and emotional support during this crucial time of stress. You may even be able to become good friends with his mom, who knows. But whatever you do, don't rush anything drastic since you are emotionally stressed and not calm yet. Unless you recovered quickly. But rum crucial decisions by a trusted friend or adult before running through what you could regret later. That's what I wish I had at your age when I had a similar situation at least.

Hey, my heart breaks for you. I am sorry for what those cruel horrible boys did, but that’s what they are, children. It does not excuse them and is probably no salve to you, but I do hope you can move past this one day.

As a side note, in my time, the gay boys had the in with the pretty girls/ I mean maybe revenge isn’t in your wheelhouse right now, but getting some girls on your side could make for some entertaining shenanigans down the line

I wanna kick that little groups ass for you. That's some fucked up shit. I mean the dude did make out with you and stuff so I mean come on. Dude is probably bi himself and just trying to fit in with the boys. And do mean boys because men would not act like this.

He may have popularity but I promise you it doesn’t spread far in high school I was a bit of an outcast and was constantly bullied by a girl who I knew and is a crack whore now and so it was hard to make friends because of popularity issues some pepole will look past and not care what they say because you are and always will be you and I was liked in that crowd

However most of my friends were actually a grade above me I met a few later in middle school and when I got into the high school part of my school nothing changed really and I built those bonds met new pepole in that grade and about 25% of that class atleast knew me and they’re my main friend group today even

TLDR: moral of the story if you can’t make friends in your area make a new area you will find pepole to make friends with regardless of your current mass opinion from 5-10 pepole

https://youtu.be/FrK4xPy4ahg

His mom sounds like an angel, I'm happy to hear she gave you her support. Idk if confronting him at this point is even relevant, I'd just make sure everyone is aware that this man calling you slurs actually did physical things with you, something that a straight man could never do. I may be horrible, but I would make sure everyone knows about every kiss, every hug, everything sexual that may have happened. I'd even show people pics and texts. I know it sounds terrible, but it would shift the tables in exactly 3 seconds.

Best bet by far to get the necklace back is by appealing to his mum to convince him to give it back as part of an apology. The legal route is pretty shaky, and also likely to be expensive.

Best of luck to you.

nothing that is important to you now will be as important later, especially relationshsips. go to a therapist and get over this shit, you're so young.

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Wow, I'm just now reading the initial story and then this update. I'm so, so sorry for what you've been put through. Frankly it's so repulsive and honestly emotionally abusive and toxic even if he's covering up to save face with his friends. Like, I'm struggling to frame in my own mind how anyone could even begin to come up with this "prank" let alone execute it from Summer till Harvest season.

Just remember that the trolls live under the bridge, but you are the rarest rose. Big sister hug 🌈❤️🧡💛💛💚💙💜

Did she ask him to give the necklace back? I think you need to ask her to be clear about what she has and has not tried, and what she is willing tondo to help you. Discuss whether, as his parent, she would be willing to reimburse you out of pocket so that retrieving the necklace and returning it to where it was purchased becomes her problem rather than yours.

When your child makes a mess, you clean it up. It's all well and good helping you move on but you have friends and family to support you through that and you'll get over him in your own time at your own pace. It can't be rushed. She needs to understand that this might turn into a legal battle that she and his father are going to be paying for anyway, so she might as well settle out of court.

Children are fucking horrible, its one of the reasons I'm seriously debating homeschooling but having them do extracurriculars when i have children (aside from the other benefits to homeschooling). I remember being in 9th grade, writing a heartfelt apology for a fuck up i did, like poured my heart into the note to make up with my exfriend who wouldn't talk to me (i tried to get them to physically talk to me) and in one class i saw my note being passed around the room and everyone snickering and shit. People are terrible, they have no regard for what they do and how it affects other people.

You can definitely be proud of standing up for yourself and going to his mom and trying to get justice for yourself. I hope this works out for you in the end and I'm sorry you've had to go through this.

Ah man this sucks.

You're not gonna recover from this one anytime soon, and you have nothing to prove to anyone else. Take your time, the shame and self hate is going to be overwhelming but that's to be expected. The only thing you did wrong was love someone who showed you love, don't forget that.

Honestly, saying something isn't worth it. If you are not trying to save the friendship then it's not worth your time. He won't listen, he thinks he did something funny. Maybe one day he will learn and feel empathy for other people but from what you said here he is a sociopath and wouldn't understand a word you say to him.

this is an all round awful situation and i know that you’re hurting, but please don’t feel like you need the necklace back to feel whole again. getting it back would be just, but i know how much i would fixate on something like that and honestly it sounds like it might be a long shot. maybe better to acknowledge to yourself that you’ve done everything right, and to find solace in that.

you’ll be okay. you’re strong. talk to people. if it’s available to you, talk to a school counsellor or a professional psychologist or psychiatrist. it will help you process things. otherwise, focus on the support network you have. your dad sounds like a great guy. teenage breakups suck, especially when it feels like no one understands. but you’ll be okay. it gets better.

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Goodluck man

I'm sorry this happened to you.

What these people did to you is really fucked up.

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I’m not from the US so i don’t really know your school system but i have to ask you’re both 18 right? and in High School? at what age does High school end? In my country 18 is the end of school and start work. sorry for off topic comment

'Love' doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. It's just a noise we make to try to relate to each other's inscrutable emotions. What we call 'love' is affected by our neural configuration, childhood experiences, first relationship, being cheated on, and so forth.

But it is possible that in 20 years you'll look back with the perspective of having been in a 10 year relationship and think that this wasn't real love. Who knows.

When you're your age you're overrun with hormones. You're just coming into adulthood, you're just starting to figure out the world. Everything feels desperately important.

People telling you it isn't love are probably a little bit older. They're right, but it's hard for you to understand that now.
We all went through it, people tried to help us. We mostly didn't listen or understand. We all had to learn for ourselves. We all try to help the next generation, they mostly don't listen or don't understand...rinse and repeat.
Anyways, the fella you love doesn't exist, the fella you love was a character played by a skilled actor who also happens to be a shithead in his real life. Yeah, it hurts, bad. It will pass, I promise. I was madly, desperately, eternally, and truly in love with at least two or three different girls in high school. I can hardly remember them, these girls I agonized over.
So...I guess just hang in there, life gets better.
You sound like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders, so come away from this a little wiser. You don't have to be scared of the world, but it's okay to look at things and people with a critical eye. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve and don't spend money like water. People will take advantage.

This may come off as a bit rude but it gives me the vibe from the comic heartstoppers or something but like the bad ending. I'm sorry this happened but hopefully things get better!

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Check r/legaladvice. Keep yourself going. It sounds like his mother is going to be a good rock for you now, if you need it. Stay safe, even if it means laying low for a bit. And remember to breathe. Things suck, but at least you found out who he was now, instead of months or years later. And if you need anyone to talk to, you've got plenty of people on here who can lend you an ear or a shoulder.

Man I would have made the nastiest stories I could think of about that dude.

I was one of those saying it wasn't love. I'm still saying it now. I KNOW it feels like it, because I had a similar phase with a dude, feeling like he was the fucking one. I was 18. Stupid. No fucking idea what love was, at all, but I thought I'd know it when it hit me. I did. It wasn't with him. He's a distant, pale memory to me now.

Love is shared. I get the feeling you strongly adored him, and he didn't reciprocate. It's not weird we don't believe you were actually in love yet. I've seen a lot of young relationships burn hot and fizzle out even faster. Tack the LGBTQ+ tag and it can go faster still. The number of times I've heard my darling coworker say something like, "I think I've found something really special in him." after a couple of weeks is astounding.

I fell in love with my husband in roughly 3 months. So same sort of time frame. So it's possible, I guess, but...real love...I mean real love...is incredibly rare, especially when you're young...18, 19 is young as fuck. Keep your guard up against your emotions, is all I'm saying. A lot of them might be more fleeting than you think, and you'll only damage yourself more by dwelling on them instead of letting them process and pass.

Pure fantasy

I say dox him and his socials

Awful nasty straight people