TexasRedJames1974 t1_iy23xhh wrote
Ex's are supposed to remain ex's for a reason. Why would you go over to his house, especially at his mom's request when you know he's interested in someone else?
orio-s OP t1_iy2494c wrote
Well he also wanted me to come. We are remaining friends, the problem was that I didn’t know he had a new girlfriend and I didn’t know his mom would act that way.
ihateotherhumans1 t1_iy37719 wrote
All I see are red flags OP. Even if you guys are remaining "friends", he's clearly shown that only does he not respect you, and relationships, but he also does not respect his new girlfriend. Is that really someone you want to friends with? Let alone in a relationship with? He's already proved you can't trust him once, don't let him make it a third time. Take it from someone who knows, keep your distance and work on yourself, this will only end badly in the long run with your feelings and most likely his current girlfriends hurt as well.
Ant70 t1_iy53o6o wrote
He’s just keeping his options open, he’s using you as a back up….keep you on the shelf ready to go in case he needs you. Ex’s being friends only works if the romantic part is dead and buried, you still have feelings so you are just going to get hurt.
EllieYork t1_iy4c6as wrote
It sounds like his mother and her friends act/talk that way all the time! Don't you find it strange that they all had opinions about your relationship? Rest assured, they talked about you after you left. It's best to move on before their gossiping causes you harm.
orio-s OP t1_iy4cjh2 wrote
Yeah, she is constantly trying to get me to “wait for him” and thinks I need to let him learn. She says he will “stop cheating after he learns a bit” but idk if he deserves my time after cheating on me
EllieYork t1_iy4n3al wrote
YOU DON'T KNOW? When you take back a guy who has cheated on you, it gives him a green light to continue his behavior and you can NEVER, EVER trust him. Add in his mother who obviously has no boundaries then you are the one that needs "to learn a bit." You shouldn't trust either of them! Please stop wasting YOUR time on them! Go out and find an HONEST, RESPECTFUL and LOVING new guy that will treat you as you DESERVE! Yeah, it will take time, but please DON'T SETTLE for what you're going through now.💕
TexasRedJames1974 t1_iy24hmi wrote
Hence why ex's are supposed to remain ex's.
steevieg t1_iy2ogu3 wrote
I don't know about that... it depends on their history before they got together. Just my opinion.
archangelzeriel t1_iy5z3mc wrote
Counterpoint: I have an instinctive distrust of anybody who isn't good friends with at least one of their exes.
Are you going to tell me that you liked this person enough to date them but that in every single instance whatever caused you to stop being romantic also caused you to never want to talk to them again? Sounds like a red flag to me, dawg.
Dude's mom is entirely in the wrong here, mind you. In that situation I have been known to deliver a pointed "Mom, we are done, we are FRIENDS".
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