troubled_stranger OP t1_iwh3d4b wrote on November 15, 2022 at 4:25 PM

Reply to comment by lexim412 in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

I wouldnt say that. Behavior of hers has been present ever since i was 10, about a year before i got my period. Shes told me multiple times that she lives through me which isnt ideal because i dont live up to her expectations she wants me to live exactly like her and if i dont she throws a fit.

Ive tried to communicate with her on other matters before and she either mocks me, brings it up to humiliate me, or both. Afterwards she tries to "connect" with me saying that i dont have a good mother daughter relationship and even though she did upset me we're "family"

I dunno, this is really important to me ad a whole because i feel part of my self discovery was taken away from me. My granny reached out and told me it was gonna be a talk with just me and her about this so i know shes not mad and going to at least help me in this

lexim412 t1_iwqt8lb wrote on November 17, 2022 at 5:38 PM

Women man, I am so sorry to hear this. There's a couple old sayings that line up.

"Can't teach an old dog new tricks" I'm just going to assume you're 17, so she's been the boss for 17-18 years and what she's been saying has been going. Children don't have an opinion, and now that you're getting older and almost to the point of legal you are quickly approaching the age where she cannot control you anymore and that's where the "Save it for when you're 18" comes in... It's her last shred. My mom did this too.

"You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink" You can try and try and try to be the adult and have a calm conversation and you can do everything right on your end, but that will never dictate her reaction. You still do it though because then it will show your Grandma how you're trying to take this seriously and your mom is acting more emotionally immature than you. Grandma will see it I promise because she already has her eye out for why her daughter acted this way over a vibrator... Be prepared to apologize for your actions too. You're not fully innocent and said a few things you shouldn't have, but be better than your mom and own up to your mistakes.

Good luck and update us!