Yep, I don't disagree with you. However, I do have kids and I can tell you that no matter how good your intentions are and how much you'd like to communicate it doesn't always go as planned. They are emotional little people and awkward situations are difficult for them at times...even more so when they're teens. I have at least learned that the more respect you show them and let them make their own decisions (when appropriate) the better your relationship becomes.