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Adragongentleman t1_iwumrwl wrote

Reply to comment by Otfd in TIFU telling my gf my sexual fantasy by [deleted]

How do you call the action of someone you were supposed to trust and love going behind your back to talk to a coworker to humiliate you and make you feel bad because their expectations of you weren't true? If you see relationships like this and think It's normal i'm really sorry for you because It migth mean you Haven't had a healthy one yet

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Otfd t1_iwupeqp wrote

Seems more like she is just messing with him and he is taking it too deep.

Also, I am in a really healthy relationship. We live together, barely ever fight, and communicate without issue or concerns of each others behavior.

If my girlfriend did this, I would sit down and discuss my issue instead of taking to reddit to get opinions on my relationship from 3 paragraphs worth of insight.

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Adragongentleman t1_iwurpxo wrote

This is not normal dude people that love you shouldn't mess with you in this big of a level, and talking to his coworker is such a wild cross in limits, It is affecting his work life too, It is straigth up humilianting op and honestly from my point of view this is way worse than cheating, It is mopping the floor with op's dignity If she comes on the next day and say "It's just a prank bro" It doesn't change the fact that she made op feel horrible and made his place of work feel unsafe just to get a few laughs out of It, actions have consequences, sometimes even more that we can imagine

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Otfd t1_iwuzv0v wrote

Well she likely doesn't realize and as I said before maybe OP should TALK TO HIS GIRLFRIEND INSTEAD OF REDDIT?

You know how I avoid these situations? I ask my girlfriend to talk and explain how I am feeling and typically she apologizes or say sorry I didn't realize it would affect you this much.

And vice versa for her. It's called communication, still don't see it as mental abuse though.

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