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BjoerBaer t1_iycnoc9 wrote

So are you gay or Bi? Cause you owe your gf an explanation.

Edit: he owns her an explanation if he is gay since they probably wouldn't be in a healthy 2 way relationship.

But since OP said he likes both I don't think it should be any issue. Maybe it would just be nice to know for her if you guys want to have a threesome sometime.

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NakedByNight OP t1_iyd0wrz wrote

If I had to put a label on it, I would probably pick bi. I feel like my sexuality is for me to know and for everyone else to learn about me if I'm comfortable sharing that part of me. My sexual attraction towards guys has had no impact on my relationship with my gf. I'm romantically and sexually attracted to her. We're both pro porn in our relationship, so it's not a big secret that I watch porn when she's not present. She does the same. Gay porn gets me off as much as straight porn. Last night just happened to be a gay porn night. That being said, now that my parents know, I do feel pressured to tell my gf about it.

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Digi59404 t1_iyd2q29 wrote

OP, don’t feel pressured. This is your decision to make and you’re right about that. You’re not obligated to share it with your girlfriend. What parts about you that you share, and with whom, is your decision.

That being said.. if you really love your girlfriend and you want a deep relationship with her. If you see that relationship lasting. Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others. This is the whole intimacy “in to me you see” kinda stuff. The difference between roommates and partners/lovers. Is that your partner/lover gets parts of you that no one else does.

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NakedByNight OP t1_iyd5yj0 wrote

>Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others.

Thank you for pointing that out. This is my first relationship. I'm still learning how to be 100% comfortable sharing parts of me that I don't usually share. I completely agree with you. I want my gf to be in my life for as long as possible, and if I want our love to last long term, then I need to get used to being vulnerable from time to time. I think I'm gonna tell her.

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Malevolent_Mangoes t1_iycyhtz wrote

He doesn’t “owe” his girlfriend an explanation for what porn he watches. That’s not something he needs to justify.

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kimaro t1_iyd0vsa wrote

Not for his porn, but for his sexuality if he is gay.

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Malevolent_Mangoes t1_iyd17e9 wrote

He said he likes both

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kimaro t1_iyd2jok wrote

I know he said to his parents that he likes both, that doesn't mean that he's bi. He might've been too afraid to say he's gay.

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Malevolent_Mangoes t1_iyd2zlb wrote

Maybe he is and maybe he isn’t. However OP didn’t say anything indicating he’s gay as we shouldn’t assumed that he was lying to his parents. Straight people watch gay porn and gay people watch straight porn, it’s not always an indicator of someone sexuality.

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