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NakedByNight OP t1_iycyk3l wrote

Son screaming in his sleep while porn is playing on his phone... mom might have thought the toe was the safest approach.

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harleyspoison267 t1_iydcagz wrote

Can confirm, partner is a combat vet. Shaking people awake is the best way to get tossed and end up disrupting them a lot more. The least disruptive way you can get their attention the better because when someone is asleep, it doesn't matter who you are because their unconscious mind won't recognize you until awake and that might be too late. Mom did the right thing.

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Squigglepig52 t1_iydift6 wrote

I knew somebody you had to wake by poking them with the end of a broomstick, because he always, always, came up swinging.

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harleyspoison267 t1_iydlu43 wrote

Yeah, my partner isn't usually like that unless things are bad, but if he gets startled awake it takes him an hour or two to fully relax after so it's definitely not a good way to start the day, especially if i need something urgently. I usually get in bed next to him and rub his back, that way he sort of understands it's me.

Apparently, a little while after he got back, his ex wife thought she could wake him up aggressively in front of their friends (he was dozing on the couch or something) and they all fold her not to but she thought it would be different for her. It was not. Apparently it didn't end well. He's not usually violent though, just easily startled.

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Pixieled t1_iyeir65 wrote

When I was in the Navy I (a 5'0" female) I would have to go into male berthing to wake up my watch relief pretty often. We had one guy who would wake up swinging so I would just pull back his curtain and swish a flashlight beam across his face until he woke up. Light is the safest tool for that job IME. wholly effective and provides lots of distance.

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harleyspoison267 t1_iyevuoo wrote

That's a good idea! A couple times things have gotten ugly or he's been hard to wake up, I've had to throw water on him... Wakes him up every time to the real world, but never in a good mood lol.

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Pixieled t1_iyf02j1 wrote

Lol, now I’m just imagining you squirting him with a water bottle and him running away hissing like a cat.

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harleyspoison267 t1_iyf62sy wrote

Hahaha that would be funny! The one time I just wet my fingertips and flicked toward his face so it was pretty minimal, another time I put a cold rag on him, but there was a time where things were more dire and I was starting to get pissed (he was moving and speaking but not really conscious) so I did actually kinda throw water from a distance and move away. He has a very aggressive face when he first wakes up just normally (baby sis stays with us sometimes and calls it his Murder Face) but he was definitely more angry than normal those times!

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