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NakedByNight OP t1_iyd0wrz wrote

Reply to comment by BjoerBaer in TIFU falling asleep while watching porn by NakedByNight

If I had to put a label on it, I would probably pick bi. I feel like my sexuality is for me to know and for everyone else to learn about me if I'm comfortable sharing that part of me. My sexual attraction towards guys has had no impact on my relationship with my gf. I'm romantically and sexually attracted to her. We're both pro porn in our relationship, so it's not a big secret that I watch porn when she's not present. She does the same. Gay porn gets me off as much as straight porn. Last night just happened to be a gay porn night. That being said, now that my parents know, I do feel pressured to tell my gf about it.

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Digi59404 t1_iyd2q29 wrote

OP, don’t feel pressured. This is your decision to make and you’re right about that. You’re not obligated to share it with your girlfriend. What parts about you that you share, and with whom, is your decision.

That being said.. if you really love your girlfriend and you want a deep relationship with her. If you see that relationship lasting. Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others. This is the whole intimacy “in to me you see” kinda stuff. The difference between roommates and partners/lovers. Is that your partner/lover gets parts of you that no one else does.

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NakedByNight OP t1_iyd5yj0 wrote

>Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others.

Thank you for pointing that out. This is my first relationship. I'm still learning how to be 100% comfortable sharing parts of me that I don't usually share. I completely agree with you. I want my gf to be in my life for as long as possible, and if I want our love to last long term, then I need to get used to being vulnerable from time to time. I think I'm gonna tell her.

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