I can relate to this except I bought the ring, got married and then handed over half of everything I'd worked for when we separated... You did the right thing get out and get your life back.

It took me a long time to realise that just because my now ex wife was clearly and repeatedly abused, it didn't stop her from also being an abuser. She was both victim and perpetrator.

Same story - helicopter, controlling parents resulting in her severe depression and anxiety. Her actions cutting me off entirely from my friends and family. The only difference is that it wasn't her dad, it was her mum who was the problem.

I'm almost certain her she was textbook narcissistic personality disorder.

You might doubt your decision every now and then but it's the right one. Stay safe.