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Darktenzi t1_j1tn825 wrote

Its like... okay to not be big on your gf's family... my gf like despises my mom... it is what it is, you shouldnt have to like walk on eggshells about it. I feel since she knew you were already not super i to her fam she maybe should have been more prepared for a no to the trip thing?

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throwaway9908273 t1_j1tp8z4 wrote

Maybe so. (I think) She was excited to go and really hoping for a yes from me as well. I can also be really inconsistent with what I do and don't want to do, so maybe she was just playing off the hope I say yes.

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Darktenzi t1_j1tpold wrote

Either way, its good that you at least talked about it. If she knows she may be able to help bridge that gap and make interacting with her fam more tolerable? If you agreed to go maybe make a goal of the trip to better understand the family dynamic? Maybe your perceiving it in a way thats worse then how they see it? Idk just kinda spit ballin here.

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throwaway9908273 t1_j1tqss1 wrote

It's very possible I'm perceiving it that way. The more I think about it, the more I tend to shift towards that. I'll definitely make that a goal of the trip, and I'll try to talk to her about it in a way that's more towards building (like you said bridging the gap) our relationship rather than tearing it down.

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