throwaway9908273 t1_j1tp8z4 wrote on December 27, 2022 at 8:44 AM

Reply to comment by Darktenzi in TIFU by telling girlfriend I don't like her family by [deleted]

Maybe so. (I think) She was excited to go and really hoping for a yes from me as well. I can also be really inconsistent with what I do and don't want to do, so maybe she was just playing off the hope I say yes.

Darktenzi t1_j1tpold wrote on December 27, 2022 at 8:50 AM

Either way, its good that you at least talked about it. If she knows she may be able to help bridge that gap and make interacting with her fam more tolerable? If you agreed to go maybe make a goal of the trip to better understand the family dynamic? Maybe your perceiving it in a way thats worse then how they see it? Idk just kinda spit ballin here.

throwaway9908273 t1_j1tqss1 wrote on December 27, 2022 at 9:06 AM

It's very possible I'm perceiving it that way. The more I think about it, the more I tend to shift towards that. I'll definitely make that a goal of the trip, and I'll try to talk to her about it in a way that's more towards building (like you said bridging the gap) our relationship rather than tearing it down.