throwaway9908273 t1_j1tqeai wrote
Reply to comment by respectfulpanda in TIFU by telling girlfriend I don't like her family by [deleted]
I understand. I definitely do need to bury it and just try my best, I think I'm holding a lot of judgment against them without much real reason. So I'll try and see how it goes.
I do try to support her with her family problems, I just do not want to become this backbone that she always relies on. It may be unfair but I feel like she needs to be able to deal with some of it herself. I didn't include this in the original post but we're both going off to college very soon, meaning I most likely won't be able to be there for her every little thing and why I want her to learn to be able to help herself. That being said, I don't really understand where I'm drawing the line, or where I don't want to put her needs before mine.
Cocodrilo-Leche t1_j1tyn1t wrote
I think the fact that you’re both younger makes a difference. If you were closer to marriage, and seriously considering legally joining each other’s families in the next few years, that makes this type of sacrifice much more important. But if you’re both on your way to college, it’s a lot less likely you’ll be interacting with each other’s families a ton, at least during the school year. Overall, I could be wrong, but at that age there’s probably many steps before marriage, so unless you have to see them all the time, integrating into a family you find difficult doesn’t need to be your biggest priority. It can be done in smaller, more manageable doses than a prolonged trip with them. I also respect the honesty in an uncomfortable situation
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