Trans activists get their backs up over people with Autogynephilia as they believe its used as a means to discredit the validity of being transgender. Its kind of ridiculous to say a fetish doesn't exist and invalidate someone elses lived experience simply because you feel your own identify is being questioned by their mere existence. Both transgender people and people with autogynephila can and do exist. People can be experiencing one and mistake it for the other due to the overlap in symptoms and neither one discredits the validity of the other.

Well done OP. I'm glad you figured it out before making any permanent changes to your body you may have later regretted.