Dimalen t1_j1948fa wrote
Why are so many people bouncing on top and not grinding? And then when pointed out that you can grind, they act like the surprised Pikachu. WHYYY?? (Not shaming, so apologies in advance, it just surprised me so much)
It's just weird because my first instinct was to grind and we adore it, also my partner had partners before and he is also surprised with the bouncing thing.
So, why?
420cortana420 t1_j194wd7 wrote
Different strokes for different folks, personally I find grinding painful and not as pleasurable for me; if my partner is into it that’s another story.
d4m1ty t1_j199khq wrote
My wife likes it doggie and pounding and if I am not pounding enough, she pounds her ass back.
Grinding doesn't do shit for her.
Dimalen t1_j19bbf5 wrote
Yeah we also pound when doggie, I mean when the girl is on top, otherwise it's pounding for me as well
HeywoodPeace t1_j19f1rx wrote
I had a woman do the grind thing. My boy lost interest pretty quickly. I felt nothing.
Dimalen t1_j19fde1 wrote
Would like to see how you do it actually, curiosity kills me how it can be like this for you. I just wonder if we do it the same way? You get me 😅
HeywoodPeace t1_j19wcx0 wrote
Are you asking me for vids, because I hardly know you. Maybe we could get drinks first
Dimalen t1_j19jwxc wrote
Also I just realized that maybe I am not clear - but the dick is inside, right? Because this is how I mean it. Not grinding ON the dick while it lays on the stomach but it is inside
HeywoodPeace t1_j19w3tn wrote
Yes, but what I feel when having sex is the sliding in and out, long strokes. When a woman grinds she enjoys rubbing her clit against the guy's pelvis, but the guy gets a mild foreskin adjustment similar to what pants do when you shift in a chair
1mpri t1_j1970vo wrote
I dont feel like grinding game me anything ever. It feels nice for her i guess ?
So i can ask u why the grinding ? :D
Dimalen t1_j19b7mi wrote
The pressure gives a stronger sensation in the right places I think, also it looks sexier to me, and grinding btw is also more pleasurable to my partner rather than bouncing, like we've been together for almost 4 years and we maybe tried bouncing once for experiment, so this is why it surprises me:D
So again, I hope it does not come as I judge it or think it's the wrong way, it's just that "being in the field" for a while and listening to my friend's experiences it's just weird to me that someone bounces? And it looks also awkward to me I don't know why, like, not sexy, especially when someone writes that they squatted while bouncing, it's like .... HOW AND WHY?
Also I am from a European country if it counts, because despite me having been to the USA before, I still realize that while both our worlds are the digitalized, civilized worlds we are very different TO THE CORE! It is interesting haha
Btw we recently watched a Bill Burr interview I think with Joe Rogan? And there he was talking about how it felt painful while the woman grinded because the woman being shaven hurts him while grinds and we just watched baffled like... HOW DO THESE PEOPLE FUCK THERE?? WHY DO THEY HAVE THESE ISSUES WHEN NONE OF OUR AQUINTANCE DOES?😂
Sorry I realize my surprise and experience may give you the same reaction I have regarding bouncing, it's just weird haha
Alwayspuzzles t1_j19abgn wrote
Before my current partner I have not even enjoyed being on top and Ive tried both grinding and bouncing. It didn't feel like anything to me My previous partners have only enjoyed bouncing so I have done it for them. With my current partner grinding feels great for both of us. So from my experience I just think people are built differently and because of that fit better in different ways.
Dimalen t1_j19bo6i wrote
Yeah it must be the anatomy most of all, so weird that we are THIS different. Hope everyone finds those who is perfect for them ❤️
Alwayspuzzles t1_j19cdbr wrote
Yea it is strange and I hope so til! I always assumed it was me who was built different when Ive read so much about how it is other womens favourite position. But I realise just now that I have had a different favourite position with every partner ^^
Dimalen t1_j19dzj3 wrote
For sure! Also I think the other reason why it surprises me is when someone advises the grinding instead of bouncing, so many times the answer is "hmm I will try, didn't think about it" is so weird to me. That it's not even an option for many and the default action is to bounce
WarpedCore t1_j19g39h wrote
Since it was being filmed...Cinematic Effect is my guess.
Dimalen t1_j19hiug wrote
No, I mean sometimes in sex-related subs when there are questions or anything, many people mention how they bounce in general during sex, and the grinding was never an option for them. So even when no filming involved
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