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ShortCartographers OP t1_j1ekx39 wrote

Reply to comment by Internal_Teaching_80 in TIFU by not locking the door to the bedroom… by ShortCartographers

Oh and it gets worse than that. She lives in a stable home with food security, has two loving parents to care for her, who love her unconditionally, who don’t neglect or abuse her, and who also love each other. She might turn out to be a kind a wonderful person, the shame.

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Internal_Teaching_80 t1_j1emihr wrote

Yeah that is pretty good but a traumatic experience is a traumatic experience.

I got all the things and more from what you mentioned up here in your sarcastic comment, but I (M) have been raped at the age of 3 by my grandfather so yeah, one traumatic experience can destroy someones life

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ShortCartographers OP t1_j1epjr5 wrote

I am very sorry to hear that, I am also a survivor of childhood SA. I understand the long term effects of that kind of trauma.

However our daughter is fine. She has no context to know what she saw because she hasn't been sexually abused. And from reading other comments here it seems not uncommon that little kids might walk in on something and since they have no idea what they saw they are not traumatized, in fact a few comments have described their kids thought they were just playing or they simply forget this kind of five second issue where they were not in harms way. There was no fear involved to create trauma.

I understand in our brains, which have been warped by being betrayed in such a fundamental way by an adult who we should have been able to trust, that stable foundation is gone which would change the context perhaps for witnessing this on accident. But my daughter is not me and she is ok.

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