AYASOFAYA t1_j1mc2jx wrote on December 25, 2022 at 4:01 PM

You already ruined it by fooling around with someone you know had feelings for you in the past. That was your first mistake. You have to end it and if she accuses you of sending mixed signals it’s fair for her to feel that way.

PSA to all, not just OP: The moment you find out someone likes you, that context and history STAYS with everything you do from that point. So if you let them continue to flirt with you, you are at least somewhat complicit in leading them on, and “but I didn’t actively flirt back” doesn’t absolve you. You do need to actually communicate with them that you’re not interested. If you know exactly what they are pursuing and make a conscious choice to let them continue pursuing it, that’s enough to signal “there’s opportunity here.”

CthulhuLovesMemes t1_j1n8mze wrote on December 25, 2022 at 8:20 PM

I had a few best male friends that I said flat out after they tried to ask me on a date or be flirty that I wasn’t interested (two were brothers and I practically lived at their house because I was neglected by my family). I was known as a “notorious friend zoner,” for being honest ffs. Some people act like you owe them a chance, too.

Just a heads up though, feelings aren’t easy to get rid of if you see someone all the time and I learned that the hard way by someone carrying a torch for years thinking I’d feel different one day. You might have to end this friendship. Think about it. Just like the comment above, you already fooled around and she’s sending you nudes. If someone else likes you, your best friend will likely fuck that up as well.