That's something to chat with a therapist about. Ain't nobody holding the fact they unloaded some stuff from their pantry over you after hearing about you taking care and forethought into your food situation. She's wealthy enough she doesn't even think about food cost and likely a lot of it would've gone to waste eventually.

*My wife usually makes friends with a handful of Chinese exchange grad students (we met in China when I worked there and moved back to my home country so she generally gets along with fresh off the boat people better than locals, not exclusively but generally) and when they head home we almost invariably end up getting a bunch of good food and household stuff unloaded on us. I'm doing just fine financially but I'm not too good for free shit.

I would just talk to her about next time you meet her. I doubt she had any ulterior motives as long as it was specifically food. I think her thought process was not enough food around Xmas let me help out. So just tell her you appreciate last time and didn't want to ruin the moment but your family doesn't actually need food you were just excited about finding a good deal.

You don't need it all? See if you can find someone who does. And tell your wealthy relative what you did with it.

Her reason for giving tells you that there are no strings attached. You can write her a letter expressing your gratitude for thinking of you. And if there is too much for your family, share with others who nave need. You could even write her about that, letting her know that her gift helped others she doesn’t even know.

I have a feeling she would appreciate that even more than being in a position to help you after she lived through being unable to help others. She doesn’t need to know you didn’t need it.

Food is usually one of the things that has the least strings attached, especially after a holiday. Knowing my MIL, she was probably right about not eating everything and felt good giving it to someone who she thought could use it. No sweat.

Give what you don't want to those experiencing homelessness and if she asks later tell how grateful you were and it was a lot so you shared the love. And you're family is doing well.

They rich they have plenty to spare.

One of the many perks of being rich is you don’t have to attach strings when being generous to someone you want to help. Let her feel good about herself, unless accepting her help is truly causing you anguish.

If you need to, think of it as you doing her a favor by letting her share something she wants to share with you. I can guarantee you it makes her feel good to share with you.

Give any you don’t need to a local food bank. It will be much appreciated