TIFU by fighting an ex boyfriend and going to a club with friends a week later

Submitted by Pleasant_Broccoli451 t3_zywbmk in tifu

I live close to a pretty famous club area with different events every weekend. A club I like invited several well know DJs and dancers. It was a prelude to the upcoming New Year's Eve party. Like it get's crazier every day leading up to NYE and on the 31 Dec it's the highlight.

Two of my god friends came to visit their familys for NYE and I'm off work this week so I invited them to have a drink and go to the club later. I was super excited for the event and hyped them up for like two weeks.

Here comes a little back story from a week ago: My roommate had a boyfriend. She lost feelings, wasn't happy anymore and ended the relationship out of respect for him. She did that at our place in case he get's mad or overreacts. And he did. He yelled at her about the weirdest shit. Cussed her out and was over all really aggressive. The relationship was fine and he seemed like a good guy while being with her. We became friends but my roommate is also my best friends so of course I'm on her side.

I can't stay out of things so I went into her room and told him to calm down. He yelled at me, I yelled back, my bestie cried. He raised his hands to her and I got between them. He kinda hit me but didn't get me properly. I threatend to call the police and he left. I'm going to spare you any more details but the break up was messy. Fragile ego on his side - do I have to say more?

Last night my friends and I went to a bar, had a few cocktails and than went to the club. We queued for half an hour just to get to the door. And guess who was the bouncer?

My best friends ex boyfriend...

He of course recognised me and said that I can't get in. I was shocked because I thought as a grown man he can put a line between work and private life. I asked if my friends can get in and he said no. I asked him why and he said that I know why. I asked the other bouncer but her ex jumped in telling his co worker to not let me in under any circumstances.

Being my argumentative self I asked for the manager. I usually don't ask for managers but this situation was unfair and since I can't talk to him like we're two grown ups. He went inside to look for his boss. The manager came out saying I can't get in because I'm not the right patron for their etablissement by what he heard about me. The things he heard about me were the things the ex boyfriend told him in the last 2 minutes.

I can't let something like that sit on me so I argued with him to let my friends in at least. It's not there fault I had a fall out with the bouncer. The manager agreed BUT BANNED ME????

My friends didn't went in (they are so sweet, aren't they?) and we left. This morning I sent an email to the organizer with a formal complaint. I know it probably won't do anything but I'm a petty bitch.

TL;DR: I had a fall out with my besties ex boyfriend who happend to be a bouncer at a famous club I tried to get into. He didn't let me. I argued and now I'm banned from the club.

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Jester_Thomas_ t1_j2868mn wrote

You didn't fuck up, good for you for defending your friend. Bouncers have the most fragile egos of any profession I'm convinced of it.

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Pleasant_Broccoli451 OP t1_j286fd1 wrote

after last night - I totally agree!

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aussie_nub t1_j28stpq wrote

He hit you right? You should have pressed charges and went to his boss about it. I don't go out clubbing too much, but assault charges can't look too good to a security company.

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Interesting-Month-56 t1_j2860ie wrote

I don’t think you fucked up.

I think the ex and his coworkers are shit on par with Andrew Tate.

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Pleasant_Broccoli451 OP t1_j286eq8 wrote

It's so crazy to me because he was so nice and supportive while they were together. I could've called him in the middle of the night totally wasted and he would've gone out of his way to help me but after the break up something switched and now he's acting like this.

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shardingHarding t1_j28bozm wrote

A lot of people are very good at hiding their toxic sides, but to be fair he might have just loved your friend and the pain is unbearable. That said, most bouncers are toxic.

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cantnameguzy t1_j29cvng wrote

You didnt tell the whole story. From what i read your friend did something shitty and you defended her cause "friends". What happened between them that made him so angry at her?

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DownrightDrewski t1_j286ig2 wrote

I agree this was not a FU by OP, but I think you're being a bit harsh on these guys by putting them at the same level as that piece of excrement.

They're utter pieces of shit, but, not on his level

Edit - missing words can be important... added a crucial not.

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Rossco1874 t1_j28r4oh wrote

So your behaviour isn't right but bouncer raising his hand to his ex gf is?

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Psycho_Kronos t1_j2b3p56 wrote

Doesn't surprise me that the club owner is complicit with an abuser and in fact penalised the wrong person. Clubbers usually aren't the best or brightest.

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TroublemakingB t1_j28rjy4 wrote

I do believe I would file those assault charges, or certainly have the cops have a little chat with the woman beater.

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MakeHasteNoah t1_j294z2q wrote

Bouncers hahaha small dick energy from all of them.

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ComprehensiveFact752 t1_j28anwb wrote

Ok Karen, why insist on talking to the Manager?

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Pleasant_Broccoli451 OP t1_j28avyp wrote

I'm usually the least karen-y person ever but I felt mistreated in this situation. Him not allowing me in the club was simply because he didn't like me. Because I told him to not yell at or hit my best friend.

I wouldn't have asked for the manager if he said we weren't dressed properly (dresscode) of if the club was fully loaded - but it was simply subjective and that's unfair.

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ComprehensiveFact752 t1_j28fyfj wrote

Welcome to equality world then i guess. I assume you're a chic since no dude would ever get the idea of trying to talk to the manager. Sometimes you just won't get into the club. Just because you're a dude.

I know, this has nothing to do with your initial story. I just had to point it out. Have a good one though.

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