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scruffyfatguy OP t1_j1i2v4c wrote

Reply to comment by qlz19 in TIFU by asking about my wife's dog by scruffyfatguy

Tink liked NO ONE. To know that I would have been pushed aside makes me feel uncomfortable. We built an amazing life together. It would have all been for naught.

Also, long term relationships she had before me the dog hated him as well, but he was allowed to remain...

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SmartForASimpelton t1_j1im2px wrote

That is why she trusts the dog you dope.

Dog didnt like him and it didnt work out

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MrScrib t1_j1iu53a wrote

The real FU is your interpretation of things.

When I was about 10 my mom told me she wished she never had met my dad. When asked about me and my siblings, she was like - eh. This is not what's happening here.

You are literally overthinking this to find the bad in it. Reframing it to make yourself some kind of victim here. You're not, she's not, and the dog did you a solid.

You had ZERO investment at that time - none of anything you had happened had happened yet. And unless she's saying she wished the dog picked differently, all this means is that her system worked.

In fact, that's the thing to take away from all of this: her system worked. So be glad she had a system that worked for her (for both of you, really). Whether it was a good system doesn't matter.

And stop framing it like she would have thrown away everything you built up just because the dog had a bad day - you hadn't built up anything at that time and no one can see into the future like that.

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