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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tv2iv wrote

Reply to comment by HikerTom in TIFU for texting my ex merry Christmas by tiredofmyfeelings

Yeah, she can with me because she is already comfortable and we know each other. It was difficult at the start because she had mental breakdowns, until she was comfortable enough to do it. It was also erasmus, so easier to do this things

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HikerTom t1_j1tz0ks wrote

Oh gotcha.

Well yeah from the other comment about her cheating I'd say you should move on.

I've been in your shoes before so I know it's tough. But it's for the best for sure.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tz33z wrote

It's for the best for sure, i need to

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vj5t5 wrote

Oh, nevermind.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1vjlaz wrote

I've seen now three of your comments, with three different opinions, which one is it? XD

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vm3n4 wrote

I think you should play your cards right and give her what she wants, cause that’s at least part of what you want and then get over it remembering that it doesn’t matter if you had sex.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1vprj6 wrote

I dont think its a good idea. It took me one year to more or less not think about her everyday. She cheated on me during the small three month relationship, and to hook up we need to plan it (she lives far enough) i know that at one point or another we will meet again (common friends) so i will probably use that time, if I still want to hook up, to do it. If I did it now with those conditions it would only fuck me over more, and make it too hard for anything further to happen. Even harder for me to move on.

She has something that makes it way harder for me to move, it's actually my first love so it's not easy for me to move on from everything that was so important

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vizyb wrote

So suck it tf up and lie. Tell her you aren’t looking for anything serious and that’s why you texted her on Christmas. Tell her you were worried she would think you were a creep if you said you just wanted to hook up though.

No one wants to look like they’re looking for commitment and no one is willing to be up front with their intentions. Is it silly? Yes, but it’s just how people want to be seen as. Idk.

But get laid, satisfy her and maybe she’ll change her mind. You never know if you don’t try. Straight women are weird like that.

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