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Turbodong t1_izcsnwl wrote

You caught it while she is 8. I won't discuss my experience with parental mental health neglect, but many don't get diagnosed until their 30s or not at all, while their parents gaslight them and pretend/"forget" anything trauma-related ever happened. You will never be perfect, but you can maintain your vigilance.

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aurinxki t1_izdbtgz wrote

Absolutely true. Also, OP, consider that with the right therapy and support, in the future she may stop meeting the criteria for the conditions. It's still early enough for her to learn how to explore her identity and accept her history. It is different for each person but I think was caught early enough. No person is trauma free but you're there for her, you did your best with your resources at the time and you're doing your best now.

Not a fuck up. It's admirable what you're doing.

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Turbodong t1_izimsfx wrote

+1. Therapy doesn't work for everyone, but the earlier, the better. Otherwise, trauma compounds in myriad, unpredictable ways.

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Torres_alexia t1_izgslqs wrote

Right my mother didn’t catch it until I was evaluated at 14 and with the psychiatrist I have now we believe my mental health problems started when I was a little kid. I do remember being sad all the time.

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