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maohvixen t1_j1pmvh7 wrote

Reply to comment by reevelainen in TIFU by thinking I have to practice with a pro before having sex with my girlfriend by [deleted]

Dude I don't mind whether my partner is a virgin or not (some women might care, but that seems to be a very small percentage, and those women are further split among specifically wanting virgins or experienced men), but, and most women seem to agree with me on this, I would be upset if my bf cheated on me.

Hardly seems like all that much to expect someone to not cheat.

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reevelainen t1_j1po3q7 wrote

There isn't excuse for cheating, you're absolutely right and my comment surely didn't mean to defend his actions or justify them. Still seems to me that a lot of men are more shamed about their virginity the older they get. Being self-confident on that area too helps finding a companion too so eventhough someone finding a love 'dont mind the virginity', it's somewhat plausible that the experience in sex increases self-confidency, and that often the key to find someone to love. It's not anyone's fault.

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BewBewsBoutique t1_j1qhhmh wrote

The issue people have with dating virgins isn’t the lack of sexual experience, it’s the general lack of dating experience. Men without dating experience basing their idea of dating on porn and online forums with other dateless men. Then they end up doing things like cheating on their girlfriends with hookers because they’ve idealized sex. What woman wants to be treated like that? That’s not a virgin issue, that’s a mentality issue.

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reevelainen t1_j1qirjt wrote

You're absolutely right. Being a virgin doesn't usually rise the self-confidence which is highly appreciated in dating, it's not the... being a non-virgin. Obviously people who fall in love doesn't care whether the opposite is virgin or not, but I'd say many men carry it like burden after certain age and that doesn't increase self-confidence which is, again, essential and is seen very attractive. A virgin can be a very self-confident too, obviously but isn't that easy I would imagine.

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