QuirkyWizard OP t1_j6i4w4z wrote on January 30, 2023 at 2:33 PM

Reply to comment by cosmernaut420 in TIFU By telling my platonic friend I would date her by QuirkyWizard

Hi thank you for reading!! I don't think she was upset I think I just made her feel awkward. We have been spending a lot of time together recently going for lunch and having dinners so maybe she assumes I've caught feelings 🤷.

ImperceptibleFerret t1_j6ifwyh wrote on January 30, 2023 at 3:50 PM

You’ve definitely caught feelings, or have had them for a long time judging by your post. Paying for almost everything for two years in a purely platonic friendship (barring extreme income disparity) is more than a little unusual.

QuirkyWizard OP t1_j6ikq7o wrote on January 30, 2023 at 4:21 PM

Hi thank you for reading and your input!! True it is a bit unusual, when we first started hanging out we were both fresh out of shitty relationships so I think paying for things was my way of still feeling valuable to someone, it's just something that never phased out I guess, but it's mostly small things like coffee/breakfast/lunch things under 40$ but lately it's been rather expensive in an effort to cheer her up 😅. It is possible I may have feelings on a small scale I do love her as a friend no question, we do rely on each other for emotional support quite often when I have guy/girl troubles and she's having guy troubles, even non relationship troubles. So I think there's a part of my brain/heart that recognizes that she would be a good partner. Maybe I should take a step back for a while, figure things out on my own

ImperceptibleFerret t1_j6jx9dj wrote on January 30, 2023 at 9:23 PM

Don't beat yourself up, I think you were clear about your meaning and you certainly haven't been difficult about things at all. Best of luck.

QuirkyWizard OP t1_j6klxhl wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:05 AM

Thank you so much!! Ill do my best to fight the urge to bury my head in a snow bank lol