AlgaeFew8512 t1_j4lij5z wrote
When you say changed your name, do you mean a full legal name change, or you use a stage name professionally but legally you still have your original name.
If it's the first, she needs to lear that the old name isn't your name and just because you have a different name doesn't mean you are a different person. If it's a name she doesn't like she can call you a nickname/petname privately and only if she's interviewed use you actual new name.
If it's the second then I can understand her calling you the old real name in private but in professional settings she should be using your professional name.
Not recognising the new name is disrespectful in either case. Not calling someone by the name they've asked to be called is disrespectful. The question is do you want to be living with and eventually marry someone who disrespects you everyday on such a fundamental way as not recognising your identity
[deleted] OP t1_j4mwr6m wrote
> i’m fine if she uses it at home. But she has been using my old name even outside the house, in industry parties, interviews etc. which is not what I want.
I feel like the question you have is covered by this.
angry_old_dude t1_j4nrwan wrote
Some people seem to be zooming right past that part and giving advice that completely ignores that context. Peak reddit, I guess.
czbz t1_j4mmthf wrote
What someone's called in private isn't generally a legal question. Whether or not OP is ok with being called the old name in private probably has nothing to do with whether they went through a legal process to change name.
Ghostglitch07 t1_j4mtki4 wrote
No, but legally changing ones name shows an extra personal commitment than simply using a pseudonym for professional reasons
AlgaeFew8512 t1_j4mybyg wrote
That's what I meant. If it's legal then I find it pretty insulting to not use the new name. If it's just a stage name it seems kind of fair for the gf to still use the real name privately
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