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Dry-Ad-9428 OP t1_j2lw2sa wrote

Reply to comment by OGmcqueen in TIFU by making my partner pick by Dry-Ad-9428

My girlfriend acknowledges them, last time I brought it up cause of something she and childhood friend were doing she brought him into it and he said he was her boyfriend and I just remember crying for the weekend lol

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Lined_the_Street t1_j2m94wq wrote

That isn't even really acknowledging your insecurity. If anything that is using them against you for your own entertainment

This is hard to hear at that age, but I wish someone had asked me this. Are you sure you really want to be with her? And none of the easy "I love her" excuse. My opinion, genuinely sit down by yourself and reflect on how she makes you feel. Do you find it easy to be around her? Who is putting the work in to make the relationship succeed? Is it worth it mentally and emotionally to be with her?

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Dry-Ad-9428 OP t1_j2ncda1 wrote

I enjoy being with her, I do find it easy, but the thing is early on in the relationship I never mentioned any of these issues and I guess she jokes about them because I started mentioning them when she got into contact with her childhood friend again. The only reason why I told her was because I wanted her to know that I felt safe telling her, she knows a lot about my past now, and she knows when too much is too much. Though usually ends up with her getting upset cause she thinks I don't fully trust her due to my insecurities. We both put in the effort and we always joke around with each other, usually avoiding topics that we can't handle, but she's started joking about this kind of stuff when I told her I was ok with it due to finally getting over my insecurities. She doesn't know they have returned in the past month

the events that occurred with the childhood friend saying he was her boyfriend was because we were on a break and she wanted someone to play the role to feel safe at school (we don't attend the same ones) and because I was bringing it up she automatically went to him for help and it happened, he didn't know we were dating again.

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