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Devittraisedto2 t1_j5i0er6 wrote

She didn't overreact, she did the right thing

She shouldn't have apologized to you for reacting the way she did when you laughed at her kid's face

Considering, without hesitation you took one look at her kid and started laughing. Yeah, she was justified, and the fact that she reached out to you to apologize when you didn't even apologize again right after you left shows how unremorseful you are.

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Virtura t1_j5i0q09 wrote

The tone of your post lacks empathy and penitence.

You should probably take steps to educate yourself about her child's disabilities in an effort to avoid a repeating scenario.

People are different, everyone has struggles, visible or not.

Grow up.

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olduvai_man t1_j5i3x1d wrote

WTF, how are you coming across the same way in the retelling as you do during the incident? I've got a permanently disabled kid, and you can't possibly fathom the heartache and loss that someone in this position is going through.

The reason she is even reaching out to you is likely because she is trying to maintain a social life and personality of her own because being a parent of a child with needs takes over your life and erases your identity.

The fact that you thought it would be appropriate to ridicule this kid, and find a way to insult her with your "apartment warming" quip in this post, speaks volumes about you as a person.

You sound like a terrible human being.

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aquakitty99 t1_j5i4wv5 wrote

Yes… today you fucked up. I’m not going to be another Redditor on this thread to give you shit for it because if you’re here I think you already know you’re wrong.

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trying_productive OP t1_j5i5fs9 wrote

Replying to olduvai_man (#1,446,272)

I know I’m trying to get my act together and my age excuses nothing. But tbh I didn’t think it was a such a big deal since she didn’t care. Your probably right though and I’ll apologize. I guess I don’t care because my family told me i did nothing wrong and she should’ve gave the kid up for adoption anyways. I don’t really know how Reddit works I just wanted to share the experience. Thanks for telling me your opinion I really needed this lol.

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Takaithepanda t1_j5i72hc wrote

I'm not going to lambast you, and instead, I'll just say that you should reflect and use this as a learning experience. Grow as a person when you make mistakes.

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starwhal3000 t1_j5ia879 wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

I think we can hear why you are the way you are. I don't want this to come across too cruel, but I really hope that if you have children that you give them up for adoption as well. You'll ingrain into that child what your family has ingrained into you... please don't do that to the world, the future is going to be hard enough.

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Paulutot t1_j5ib464 wrote

Can I just say, yeah you are a bad person. Take this moment in time as a teaching lesson on humility and compassion , move on and try to be a better human.

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Toxic_Wasteland_2020 t1_j5ilm1g wrote

The fact that she reached out to you, said she felt bad about having him, and then texted you saying sorry tells me she's sad, struggling, and desperate for a friend....and you shouldn't be that friend or rather can't be that friend. I hope she finds a good, nice friend that can be there for her and help....I feel bad for her.

This is the worst thing I've read on the internet today, and I just read THIS for the first time only minutes ago.

TLDR: You're Smegma.

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Psycho_Kronos t1_j5ins5n wrote

Tell her to disown her child and forget about it. She could always have more children.

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Frequent-Community-3 t1_j5iwqol wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

Were you never taught to be kind and accepting of others despite any differences? I cannot fathom how a grown-ass person could laugh at a differently-abled child and then just laugh it off later, also. You are severely lacking in empathy and definitely not deserving of your friend's time and energy. I'm actually embarrassed for you, not them, though you certainly don't deserve the empathy you obviously can't show to others. You should be ashamed of yourself and begging HER forgiveness, not the other way around.

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unique616 t1_j5j2kx8 wrote

All babies ugly but you aren't supposed to tell people behind their backs ever or to their face unless they specifically request and beg you for an honest answer about themselves. I learned that myself as a little kid so you should know better too. I hate it when people take it too far though. People need to follow the "If you don't have anything nice to say" rule. It's cruel and also spreading lies to say that you love somebody's new ugly haircut. Those people aren't your friends. They are encouraging you to look bad.

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oldar4 t1_j5j3zbv wrote

You really are an ass. Empathy is not close to the top for you, just some dumb joke.

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oldar4 t1_j5j44td wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

"I really needed this lol " you should leave that woman's life, she deserves better than you. Even now you don't take it seriously. You did one of the most heartless things I can imagine and are still taking it lightly.

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ChuckRocksEh t1_j5j8emr wrote

You laugh when describing her as “a great mother” and you laugh about her house warming being an “apartment warming”. You’re a pretty bad person.

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Lcon8390 t1_j5jf3v7 wrote

I hope you stub your pinky toe the rest of the year first thing in the morning

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wllbtvised t1_j5jg99u wrote

You lack empathy. That’s a real problem and you need to seek professional help.

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Odd_Rutabaga_7810 t1_j5jpm7m wrote

What will you do next? That's the question. What kind of person will you become?

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TheShawnWray t1_j5jspvz wrote

What the actual hell? You burst out laughing...bad enough but it just shows you're immature. But then you doubled down by making a verbal statement making fun of the child?

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killakidz7 t1_j5jstcr wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

You didn't think you making fun of her child was a big deal? She did care - she cried in front of you. What the hell? You have no sense of empathy and this line is particularly disgusting - "my family told me i did nothing wrong and she should've given the kid up for adoption". The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I suppose. Please - don't be friends with this person. They deserve better.

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NeedsMoreTuba t1_j5jzm64 wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,447,550)

Knowing you were wrong is one of the first steps towards becoming a better person. It's a hard step.

You've acknowledged your mistake and should try to learn from that and work towards being more understanding of other people's situations. That's how we grow into better people. From your family's comment, it seems like you may not have truly known that your reaction wasn't appropriate, but now you do. It's not too late for improvement. 🙂

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incomingstick t1_j5k6iqe wrote

You continue to refer to your friend's son as "it". Why? I strongly suggest you reflect on that.

Learn some respect. Gain some empathy. Be a human.

I hope your "friend" drops you. You suck.

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TimS83 t1_j5kbotf wrote

Wow, I mean honestly, it doesn't matter at all if her child is disabled or not. Don't laugh at somebody for how they look, period. Especially a child.

Freaking yikes, time to do some real self-reflection on what type of person you are and what type of person you want to be :(

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ThaumKitten t1_j5kmi1k wrote

Replying to olduvai_man (#1,446,272)

Can attest to the middle paragraph. I'm 25 years old; disabled child (in so far as relation, not necessarily mentally or age-wise) this entire time and my mother was the one that took charge.

Now, after 25 years, things are /actually slowing down/, I'm stabilized, and we're finally able to start relaxing and for once, only a single appointment in this entire year is scheduled.

We're flummoxed. Our entire identities have been about taking care of me. Now we're both sort of floundering and helplessly wondering 'Well what do we do now?' since we've never known a life beyond.. well, keeping me alive and healthy.

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WhatANiceCerealBox11 t1_j5kvqyi wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

What a completely garbage family you’re in. Having a child is a privilege and every child should be cherished. Giving a child up for adoption doesn’t fix anything. It’s not like the child stops existing. Giving up a child for adoption is an incredible difficult decision for anyone to make and the fact it’s said so blasé in your family shows the quality of character you guys have. Grow up and while you’re at it tell your parents to grow up

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adrunkern0ob t1_j5kxhad wrote

She is right to cut you out, everything about his post is disgusting including your little side comments. Good riddance

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Kittyvideosmeowmeow t1_j5l19a3 wrote

You’re an asshole. Immature, inconsiderate, trashy, rude, selfish dickhead.

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theal3xorcist t1_j5lcdkq wrote

You guess she isn’t that nice so you don’t feel terrible anymore?

You’re the biggest AH and POS I’ve ever met. If you ever have children I pray the universe gives you none.

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Logical_Ad_1383 t1_j5lufty wrote

Wtf would you laugh at kid. You're disgusting. Your ex friend is right to cut you out. Grow up cause karma is a bitch just like you laughed at her kid someone is gonna do the same to you.

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Vic_Gatsby t1_j5lzkxt wrote

You're trash af! I could tell before even getting to the climax of the story.

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matthewmoore7314 t1_j5m681z wrote

this is such bait ya'll responding to this are the dumb ones

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Traditional_Lack7153 t1_j5m6vhk wrote

Either this has to be bait, or this person is the most callous, oblivious, piece of shit in existence. With that attitude I can only hope she’s sterile. Don’t need anymore kids on earth experiencing and inheriting her garbage personality

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voss749 t1_j5m9tb8 wrote

This should have been posted under AITA? and I would have said yes.

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trying_productive OP t1_j5mmkos wrote

Replying to arthritisankle (#1,456,806)

Tbh I wish it was now. Like why does everyone care so much? Like a ton of people laughed at the sight of his face. What did I do wrong? I just did what everyone else did. Whatever I’m glad to be done with her and her dumb kid.

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JoeBlowOnTheInternet t1_j5n0uu1 wrote

Yeah you’re just a dumb ass. Good bait, but you’re really lame inside for thinking this lol like so trash it’s almost pitiful.

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theOperentice t1_j5nbmnm wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,460,934)

“Read one comment and stopped reading.” Lol. You’re too into yourself to not read every single comment on this thread. That’s the only other scenario besides ragebait. Crazy how ragebait is the better option. But if you insist you’re a self centered, intolerable human being then I won’t stop you. I bet all your friends just tolerate you. I bet you know it’s true too.

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ProgenyOfEurope t1_j5nbrhg wrote

Glad to hear she cut another toxic person out of her life

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orchidlake t1_j5o60dy wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,446,415)

holy hell what kind of shit family did you grow up in? Laughing at another human being is a horrible thing to do, especially in front of them and their loved ones.
How is it your family's business to claim what she "should have done"? She should have abandoned the child? Sorry? So it can grow up abandoned and in isolation instead? Or so whoever else adopted it would be a saint that "shouldn't have adopted such a child"?

She made a choice to keep the child for a reason, and she's genuinely hurt about the struggle he'll have. She's a good person. She's right that your reaction was toxic; and that you decide you don't feel bad just because she made the choice to cut you out is also toxic. You should gain some maturity and acknowledge that you did something bad and she's in her full right to reject contact with you. You should be able to respect it without being vengeful (and now feeling right in your actions.). Your family might be assholes. Naturally assholes will support asshole behavior. It's an extremely toxic notion to talk down and tell someone what they "should have" done with their child. Gross.

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dgarner58 t1_j5pc3tu wrote

this guy may not be the worst person on reddit...but he's the worst i've seen today.

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JPElJefe22 t1_j5pk4nt wrote

IF this is actually real...

I typically don't advocate for violence, but you should be surprised she didn't smack you across the face.

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ledspencer t1_j5ponj4 wrote

Either rage bait or you're scummy af

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Embiggenment t1_j5q3ozo wrote

Wow. I'm a high-functioning autistic, but this hurt to read in more ways than one.

You're a cock.

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JustAnotherVeggie t1_j5suphl wrote

Replying to trying_productive (#1,447,550)

>I just want some opinions on the situation 👍

And yet, in the edit to you own post, asked, in full disbelief and a heaping audacity, asked "Do people actually care this much."

When every single comment you've replied to has been something sarcastic, unwitty and enthusiastically entitled, I feel you should, seriously, seek therapy. Not sure how you wanted opinions when all you've done is, to your little credit, make embarrassingly hilarious attempts to do your "best" to clap back at people for a response.

I will also put it plainly, yes, that is ragebait, because obviously you're only replying to make people angry. You sound bitter and I hope the years are as good to you as you give out to people because, kindly speaking, you deserve that.

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HeywoodPeace t1_j5tckfl wrote

Replying to Embiggenment (#1,480,403)

Good guess and I'm this callous toward all people. The human race is carrying a lot of dead weight. Thinning the herd is beneficial to all, and starting with the weak, sick and damaged is how the natural order of things works. Leave it to humanity to ignore the laws of nature and keep overpopulating the planet with no end in sight.

If this were an antinatalism thread she'd be the one getting the shit for reproducing. Nature would not allow this child to live it it were any other species. The mother would eat her young first.

Love the username. btw.

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Embiggenment t1_j5tcviw wrote

Replying to HeywoodPeace (#1,483,274)

Okay so not only are you not an anarchist, you're just a straight-up fash. I'm autistic so for all I know, you're also providing rage bait and therefore not being serious. But on the off-chance you aren't, fucking yikes.

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Akairichii t1_j5wageb wrote

You deserve to feel bad. You're a terrible, immature person and I wouldn't want you around any kids. I am happy to know that your "friend" is cutting you out of their lives. I hope you learn from this.

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