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Ian_Moone_ t1_j6m30xo wrote

Maybe, just maybe you're putting too much into this?

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Shadowlance23 t1_j6m3bju wrote

There is so much FU here that i feel this should be split into multiple posts, but to sum it up I'll just say it's not to late to fix this if you get out NOW. Even if he's a nice enough guy (who leaves but doesn't know when he's getting back?), there's clearly alot of toxic stuff here and nothing good will come of you trying to stick with him.

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Causualgaymr t1_j6m4coy wrote

Go buy a pack of smokes and get over it welcome to the adult world kid

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minitaba t1_j6m4mlg wrote

Wtf you are a teenager! I am 31 now and cant even imagine having a relationship or even just sex with a teen at all. This dude is a creep and you really should get over your addiction

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doctoremicat t1_j6m4q92 wrote

He’s too old for you and is taking advantage. You might be 18, but as you acknowledged he’s lived a whole life and it seems to me he’s interested in the sex and you are interested in something more. With your issues (that I fully relate to) I think you should cut this guy. Cold turkey. I doubt he’s going to realize an 18 year old is the relatable love of his life and choose you. You deserve someone who’s more relatable to where you are in life and a relationship without unequal power dynamic.

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__babyslaughter__ t1_j6m4ue3 wrote

Replying to minitaba (#1,650,951)

I remember at 27 hanging out with my 21 year old coworker, whose family I had known forever, and realizing how young even his 21 year old friends were. I can’t imagine being so much older and dating a literal teen. Wtf

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__babyslaughter__ t1_j6m4wxy wrote

Girl everything about this story is bad. The nicotine is the least of it.

I hope you’re seeking treatment for the BPD though. It’s really important to manage that, talk to a therapist regularly who is knowledgeable etc

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chocolate_milk_dude t1_j6m5pw7 wrote

I think that's a mental thing. You're young and in love, and you're going to think about him often, that is just what happens. Scent, as you know, is closely tied to memory so smelling cigarettes might trigger you to think of him, but I don't believe that you got yourself addicted to nicotine from secondhand smoke or kissing him.

PS: Stay focused on school and yourself, you're young and so is this relationship.

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Imagine_Reality25 t1_j6m77lx wrote

You were a girl, then you were sure you were a boy and now a girl again? This post plus your previous post really show you have some mental health problems you need to work out. Find yourself first and do not be taken advantage off by a 32yo creep

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thebluemorpha t1_j6m8uno wrote

I seriously doubt his smoking habit has anything to do with your addiction to him, it's the thrills and feel goods you get from him, but you gotta keep it together! You know you have mental health issues and becoming obsessed with a partner is never good for anyone, don't go all in on this, live your life for you, and try to think of your thing with him like an amusement park, it's super fun to go to every once in a while, but you can never live there.

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_COVA_ t1_j6m9ed7 wrote

Jesus Christ… it has nothing to do with nicotine and smoking. It has to do with being 18 and infatuated.

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NungaFakeer t1_j6mc3bz wrote

Replying to doctoremicat (#1,650,978)

This. And i do absolutely love hanging out with the young ones in small doses perhaps a couple of times a month. As someone in their 30s, i get to learn a lot, and imbibe some of that youthful enthusiasm. But any more than once or twice a month and that selfsame youthful enthusiasm is, more than likely, going to become annoying to the point of gouging out my eyeballs and giving myself sensorineural hearing loss.

The brass and tacs here is that OP is, perhaps overinvested, and for him, OP is perhaps slightly more than a form of assisted masturbation.

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NotNateDawg t1_j6mdi7w wrote

it was kinda awkward ( he’s fucking 14 years older than me and i just turned legal ) lmfaooo yea this a fuck up alright

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Empire2k5 t1_j6mgayr wrote

Couldn't get past first couple sentences. Wall of text, using tinder to find friends? Educate each other? Nope.

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eidhrmuzz t1_j6mgrph wrote

Sounds like he uses the Dennis system.

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dogsonoverhere t1_j6mknp7 wrote

Meet other people. Do not commit yourself to one person right now. You're so young.

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mook1178 t1_j6mxafp wrote

This is called LUST, not LOVE. You need to learn the difference, especially at 18.

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theladybeav t1_j6mxyvz wrote

Oh you sweet summer child. There is less than a 1% chance anything he has said is true. He's not out of town. He doesnt own a business. He's just sleeping with a lot of barely-adults from tinder.

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NOT000 t1_j6nb0qm wrote

if u date a smoker u will stink like a smoker

hopefully u dont start smoking too

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koryuken t1_j6nbg8q wrote

There's almost zero reason for 32 yr old to hang out with a 18 yr old, huge red flag. There is almost nothing in common and you are basically a kid who thinks they are an adult. Sorry if this sounds harsh.

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Devil_May_Kare t1_j6nkguq wrote

If you think a nicotine addiction is pushing you to make unwise relationship decisions, get some nicotine gum or lozenges at a store or online. Then you can have enough nicotine to answer your cravings without doing something unwise in your relationships.

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DUNGAROO t1_j6nl894 wrote

Just because something is legal doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. There’s a long list of reasons why a 32yo shouldn’t romantically pursue 18yos and Vice versa, one’s you’ll probably appreciate more when you’re 32 and not 18. But Caleb should know better, and that should be a good enough reason to avoid him.

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Chalkarts t1_j6nr8ws wrote

This is going to end terribly for you. 32 is a creepy age to be hooking up with 18s. You’re hooked on him because you don’t know any better yet. Infatuation is a powerful intoxicant. When he breaks your heart and tosses you aside for the next 18 year old, you will have learned a valuable lesson about creeps. Be safe.

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Allthewayamazin t1_j6nsbfk wrote

Everything about this post is those new psychological terms kids learn from social media

Trauma , anxiety , healing , etc

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Lunasixsymphony t1_j6nv3xi wrote

I'm more grossed out at the age difference than the smoking.

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samsharksworthy t1_j6nw5xy wrote

You sound like a bit of a nut. Also the age gap is creepy. Also I think this is made up.

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run_build t1_j6ob9ra wrote

You hooked up with a married dude in his car and he took you back home. End of story, move on.

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Gloomy_Narwhal_719 t1_j6ogfzi wrote

I thought this was going to read "He seemed nice and then I kissed him and realized he was a smoker from the kiss YUCK" ... this went a whole different direction.

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