capt_scrummy t1_j5nblul wrote on January 24, 2023 at 5:21 AM

That sucks. Unfortunately, booze and hormones have fucked up many a friendship... If she assured you things were ok, and in the past she has blocked messages during a time of duress, then probably the best thing to do is assume that she needs some space to take stock of everything. If she has emotional issues that have gotten her committed in the past and she's going through it now, it may be best to give her that space for the time being. Also, if she was that drunk, she would have no doubt been terribly hungover, and maybe needs a couple days convalescing to get back to normal.

PSA for everyone reading this: if a friend is coming onto you really hard despite never showing interest in you before, and they are quite drunk, don't do it. Especially if you're a dude and she's a chick. We all do dumb stuff when we're drunk. Emotions get weird, we do or say things we don't mean... So, if all of a sudden out of nowhere they're all over you, it could be the booze talking. Best thing to do in my experience is say that you're both drunk, or even just say it's you, and try to get them to stop. If they're on full blackout and don't or barely remember it, that's great; if they do remember it, well, it's better to have a conversation about it sober, form sure.

In any case, hope you guys are able to work through it and continue on as friends 🍻🙏

zecariah OP t1_j5nnl9u wrote on January 24, 2023 at 7:39 AM

Ill update ya. I think im also not the most mentally healthy as u might have gauged. So who knows? Maybe shes just focusing on herself or inpatient. I could be manic and paranoid for not taking her word. I hope.

But yes. Great advice ab the booze. 🤧 im workin on it. She has as well, but neither of us are the most mentally healthy ppl ngl. Still, at least both of us have taken steps to address our issues. Even if we stumble a lot on our self improvement.

sinofmercy t1_j5qf28b wrote on January 24, 2023 at 9:06 PM

I remember one time my BFF (blonde girl same age as me) and I were both in ruts after horrible breakups in college. We made it a thing to go to Applebee's and get sloshed on the weekends, where people would make comments like we were such a cute couple. This was a weekly thing to pass the time which was better than moping alone.

One time though she said something along the lines of "you need to get more drunk so I can take you back to my place and take advantage of you." My eyebrows shot up so fast and I was absolutely flabbergasted because despite some intermittent flirting between us over the years there has never been a crossing out of the very deep friend zone both of us had each other in. Nothing happened, I brushed it off, and we moved on. She got married, I got married, and she was my best (Wo)man. Definitely better that the line was never crossed, even if the opportunity was there.