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NorthImpossible8906 t1_j4g9tv1 wrote
yes, this is an extremely serious post. OP you may have been a victim of a crime. If you had sex with no recollection of it, or with whom, you may want to consider calling RAINN and perhaps getting some advice on how to deal with this situation.
daguy9 t1_j4j7hrm wrote
How would Rainn Wilson be able to help?
Impulsive94 t1_j4gh971 wrote
That doesn't sound like a TIFU to me, that sounds like you got spiked and raped. Keep the jacket in a plastic bag somewhere safe as there may be evidence in or on it. Check in with your friends and ask them to go through your night step by step - who they saw you with, where you went, the state you were in, who you left with etc. One person might not have all the answers but you should be able to piece it together from different chunks.
Your phone may also have your location history to show where you were and at what time - for Android you can find it in Google Maps, for iPhone I'm not sure but it very likely has the same info somewhere.
Check for photos taken on your phone or by friends - you might recognise someone and remember something.
Other than that do not shower, drink shit loads of straight water and go to a hospital ASAP. They'll draw some blood and test for drugs commonly used in this scenario and pull DNA where appropriate. This could help massively as evidence.
Regardless of how you feel about it, you don't remember the night & would have been in a state where you couldn't consent. Even if you gave the dude a resounding YES PLEASE or initiated, it shouldn't have happened.
l_u_n_a t1_j4jhn4e wrote
Only thing to add here is opt for a paper bag rather than plastic. I'm sure cops will take over and transfer it into the proper bag, but the lack of air in plastic can cause mold and decay of the clothing and any potential DNA on it.
I agree with everyone else. Even when I have blacked out there's usually a fade in and out before hand. Definitely go in babes and see if you were drugged and get a rape kit done. I know it can feel shameful or embarrassing. Though trust me from experience, not doing or saying anything is worse.
redbucket75 t1_j4g7et0 wrote
Uhm, was someone else pouring your drinks?
AegeanBlueA264 t1_j4g8uth wrote
I mean, the bartender was. I only remember drinking the drinks that the bartender made at my “home” bar.
redbucket75 t1_j4gb9my wrote
If you didn't drink enough to black out, and you blacked out for hours and there's an unknown dude's clothes in your home, you may have been the victim of a spiked drink. Which would not be your fault in any way. Talk to your friends about what happened during the rest of the night first, and if this seems plausible you may wish to seek further support and consider reporting it to authorities.
t4nk78 t1_j4gpz9m wrote
Whatever you do, don't shower yet. You may erase evidence.
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Interesting_Bake3824 t1_j4kgjib wrote
Get bloods tested for spiking and speak to your friends guilt and self loathing are a gift to predators. Even if you did pull and get off with someone, it’s not bad, but you need to speak with your mates pronto to fact find
SmileyWillmiester t1_j4g93jb wrote
Yeah unfortunately it sounds like maybe you got your water spiked. Check in with your friends as they will be able to help you sort this out. So sorry this happened to you