Stop it! You are not responsible for the actions of others. If I pour gasoline on myself and set myself on fire, I chose to do that. No one else is to blame. It's a tragedy, no lie. What it's not is your fault. My mother decided to stop taking her life savings meds. She died as a result. She was old and sick and didn't want to be a burden. We told her she wasn't a burden and we loved her and needed her. She finally started taking meds but the two years off damaged her. She died 11 months ago. What she did or didn't do was her choice and hers alone. I miss her.