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Dazzling-Ducks t1_j7a0pfz wrote

Well obviously their last name would be the same.

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atlblaze t1_j7ab3z0 wrote

It’s becoming more and more common for women to keep their maiden names after getting married.

It’s not a given any more that the woman will change her last name.

My brother’s wife didn’t change her last name.

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johndburger t1_j7b91ti wrote

Quite common - 20–30% of women now retain their name when they get married. The number rises every year, after dipping a bit in the 80s.

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distilledvinegar1 t1_j7asyp9 wrote

What last name do the kids get?

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atlblaze t1_j7azk5m wrote

Kids have his last name. She’s not opposed to his name.

I think the reason she kept hers was because she already had had a career for a decade and was known by her name. Why change it? Keeping her last name doesn’t make her any less his wife or them any less a family.

Anecdotally, this is becoming way more common.

Some people do a hyphenated last name that combines both.

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spreadybeans t1_j7g184d wrote

I wanted to change mine because it would be easier to spell, people wouldn't mess it up, and I don't identify much with my maiden name. But my husband and I have the same first name.. And he's well known in the community, we are in similar professional circles, so I opted to keep my maiden name.

Had my maiden name been easy I would have kept it regardless if we had the same first name or not.

And interestingly enough, my husbands last name is actually his mothers Maiden name. My husbands brother took their Dad's last name.

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ventricles t1_j7bziha wrote

Have you ever looked into how much work it takes to change a name? It’s not easy, you have to redo every single document you have.

When I got married I just added his last name to the end of mine on email and social media accounts and called it a day.

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