I've found Vermont to be very accepting of gays and lesbians. We had our "Take Back Vermont" moment. Some of the more rural in flavor are still mumbling about that, but they're the minority. I suspect you and your kids would be very happy here. Part of the reason housing is so expensive, so I've read, is that Vermont has turned into a haven for those like you. Edit: There was initially a considerably influx from suburbanites fleeing Covid. There's no other state I'd want to live in. It's here or northern Europe for me.