I moved from Ashburn, Va which is Loudoun to Vermont. Our family loved living there but my husband prefers a slower pace. I can get why someone can feel it’s harsh. It’s certainly exhausting but can also be a lot of fun. It was a great place to raise my kids. I would prefer raising kids there vs VT because of all the activities the kids can pursue. Schools are better in Fairfax and Loudoun county. I think if you can thrive living in a more densely populated area then you’ll love it. I loved living in Ashburn, it’s just way too expensive.