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edwardsamson t1_iw9vhh4 wrote

Reply to comment by JerryKook in Friend for my wife by abitdaft1776

I'm 33 in the Upper Valley and it feels like potential friends just don't exist for me here. Its all either Dartmouth kids I'm 10+ years older than, junkies who couldn't get out of the UV after high school, and people either married with kids or just with kids in general. Oh and I forgot the maga rednecks too.

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nikelz t1_iwa5pec wrote

More people like you exist, we just seem to congregate on the internet instead of wherever 35 year old childless progressives are supposed to hangout in the UV.

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laika404 t1_iwbt30l wrote

Yeah every now and then I see evidence of our group, just wish I knew where to meet others in this group offline...

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Severe_Net_3732 t1_iwsn3ou wrote

There’s an active Upper Valley Young Professionals group for this.

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somedudevt t1_iwhf1s4 wrote

Yup… this is the answer. Pick the hobby you enjoy (something that’s not watching Netflix alone) find a forum/social media group about it. Post the rando doing xyz on x day if anyone is interested post… vet anyone who replies by looking at their post history to make sure they are not a Nazi or conspiracy theory nut. Meet up and do the activity. Repeat the steps till you have a small group of people with similar interests.

There are tons of groups online… going into winter people coop up which is not great, find something outside that’s interesting and then get into that community, whether it’s lake ice skating, xc skiing, snowmobiling, ice fishing, etc.

Most of the people I spend time with regularly are people i either met through common interest forums, or reconnected with in those forum, or are friends of people from those forums.

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MizLucinda t1_iwacwu1 wrote

Someone once told me the only way to make friends in vermont is to have kids, since you’ll end up doing a lot of socializing through elementary school events. I was like, isn’t having kids kind of a big life decision on the off chance I might be friends with some parents in 6 years? Blank stare in response.

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msanthropical t1_iwcco6w wrote

Should we do a CF meet up?

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Averne t1_iwdhhur wrote

I would very much be down for something like that.

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Ok-Fun9346 t1_iwe4m3k wrote

I would be down for a CF meet up too.

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VTPeWPeW247 t1_iwa8xc6 wrote

I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way.

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Averne t1_iwdh8v3 wrote

I’m 36 in the Upper Valley! Let’s be friends!

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edwardsamson t1_iwdzb82 wrote

Hello! Are you from the UV originally? What kind of stuff do you like to do?

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Haltmaw t1_ix1w2fr wrote

WRJ has the cartoon college which brings in folks who are in their 20s and 30s from around the world. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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