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merikus t1_j1qv7n6 wrote

So sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time. I think there’s a lot of good advice in this thread, but I just wanted to add an additional thing.

You said:

> Trying to fight off that deeply pitted jealousy that creeps up when I hear coworkers talking of their family gatherings, soon it’ll change to everyone talking about all their gifts and family dinners.

I think it’s important to keep in mind that people only advertise the good stuff. So when friends and coworkers are talking about big family gatherings, posting fun photos on social media, and talking about that awesome gift they got, they are curating that to make them look like they’re having an awesome time and everything is great.

They are not telling others about the difficulties their family may be going through, or how they can only put up with less than 24 hours of family due to deep seated dysfunction, or whatever it may be.

I hope you find a way to treat yourself this holiday season and enjoy it on your own terms. Make it your own and do what you enjoy!

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Sexcercise OP t1_j1qw5tx wrote

Thank you for your response and perspective. It definitely is a better mindset and is also pretty realistic.

I was thinking of eating some mush, hoping I can find peace in my own company during the holidays but am also worried that the sadness my impact my trip.

Please have a safe and warm winter.

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Otto-Korrect t1_j1rwi32 wrote

That is why Facebook is so poisonous. You end uo comparing your real life to somebody else's embellished and exaggerated one.

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